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HxppyThxughts
HxppyThxughts

I'm new here. I'm 30 years old, married for 10 years to a man twice my age.


11 years ago he promised me we would move back to my birth state to be near my family once all three of his boys were grown.


Well, his youngest is about to be 20 now.


My husband has no interest in moving. He says he is in his dying years at 51 and wants to be near his kids if they have kids of their own.


I'm devastated and lost. Our marriage has had many, many problems, and has even gotten verbally and physically abusive at several points. 


On top of this, my depression and anxiety have gotten worse since I turned 30. My husband told me I would regret not having kids, that I am missing out on an essential part of womanhood, that I'm unnatural. He told me I would be miserable and alone. 


I'm scared and miserable now. I feel like my only success is being married and owning a mobile home. 


I just want my family. I want to live with my gramma, and help her pay bills. I want to be with my sick uncle and my disabled brother, even if I end up all alone as an old woman.



My joy is gone. I'm having anxiety attacks every night. I don't want to live anymore. I need help.

ReaDyO
ReaDyO
Of course you're having anxiety attack my friend, you are a prisoner of your own choices. You are now realizing that you made choices that brought you no closer to happiness and freedom. At the moment know that you ALWAYS have the choice, you can leave, do what you feel is best for you and not equate your value to what you have acquired physically. Your success comes from having learned lessons and overcoming many of the obstacles in your life. Do what you want to do and make that choice with the faith that you are capable and worth respect and love. Try your best to be conscious about your speech and your written words so that you do not see yourself as a victim. If the man lied to you then leave. It won't be easy but it is not complex. You are anxious, and depressed due to the fact that you are not using your gift. You are not doing what you inner essence KNOWS you should be doing. Be gentle to yourself and know that you have power over your life. You are well. You are able.
Andromeda8
Andromeda8
You are trapped in a horrible marriage, and you have suffered in domestic violence, whether it be physical, verbal or psychological. Your husband puts his children above your own needs and consider you as non-essential. He wants you to have children so that you would be bound to him by blood ties, which makes it harder for you to leave him.

You were naive when young to have married a man old enough to be your Dad, but you are an older woman now with ten years of life experience behind you. From your description, you are unhappy and living in an unhappy marriage and unhappy home. Excise yourself from the despair, pain, depression and hopelessness by excising yourself from that marriage. How can living with a wife-beater be considered as a happy life? This is a marriage not worth saving. Think of yourself, of your future. You are 30 yrs old, and there are plenty of opportunities in the future to find true happiness, now that you are no longer naive about relationships. Move out, travel and find a new life elsewhere. Learn new skills, study a new course so that you can have opportunities to start a new future elsewhere.

You don't have to go back to your family and sacrifice yourself to accommodate for their needs. You can help your family when you are financially stable and have income to spare to help your family. Think about your choices and don't succumb to despair. Take care, Marie
HxppyThxughts
HxppyThxughts
The thing is, I want more than anything to be back with my family and help them. I love them. I don't know how long I have them for and it kills me that I lost so much time with them.

I really wanted my marriage to work, but I feel like I just hate him and myself now.

I live 500 miles away from everyone that can help me.
Andromeda8
Andromeda8
Perhaps moving back with your family for now would be a good thing, so that you can have some time to think about your next move, what kind of future that you want to have. Just tell your husband that you want to visit your family, and once you have arrived home, stay there until you are ready to decide what you want to do.