Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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RockNMetalChic 01/17/2008

to add to my misery- matt called once again and said that he has nothing to live for- gonna kill himself- blah blah blah - doesn't know what to do- i'm the only one who is there for him and so i tried to play dr phil for him- or rather dr brandi and i told him- ok Matt, this is not totally ur fault - cause maybe the docs need to talk to u more and put u on more or different meds- and then i told him look - i'm not with you- but i do love u- and he says he is scared for me to find out if i'm pregnant or not cause if im not he has nothing and nobody to live for- ahhhhhhhhhhhhh! who wants to pull my hair out for me! any takers? anyways i once again- lets make this 3 times in 2 days had to talk him out of suicide- i honestly believe he will attempt it tonight or tomorrow and i'm gonna try to get in touch with his family and friends that live around him- seeing as i'm 4 hours away and can't really get there at the moment... though maybe thats a good thing- i don't know whatelse to tell this man- i love him and no matter how bad he treated me- i will always be there if and when he needs emotional support- so i'm stressed to the max and i'm a horrible slut all in one day - why me lord why!

deleted_user 01/17/2008

I guess you just answered your own question. The reason why you is cos as youve just said...no matter what hes put you through, you'll always be there for him so I guess you have to come to terms with the fact that you will always feel this way cos you wont allow yourelf out of it and have made yourself responsible for this person :)

deleted_user 01/17/2008

*plucks out a strand of hair*

Did that help hun?

Getting in touch with his family sounds like a good plan you shouldnt be coping with this.

RockNMetalChic 01/17/2008

i said i'd be there emotionally for him- in other ways - never again- i have let him go as far as that is concerned- but i can't turn my back on someone who obviously needs help and is just too stubborn to admit it - i do feel responsible for this- really do..... and yes Sleepy totally helped...

deleted_user 01/17/2008

Do NOT allow him to make you feel for guilty for whatever HE CHOOSES to do. IT IS NOT your fault.
Getting in touch with his family and friends and then withdrawing completely - take phone off hook for a few days, is the best plan of action here - at least in my humble opinion ;-)

RockNMetalChic 01/17/2008

i totally agree snork- thats the plan here....thanks everyone for ur advice- i appreciate it !

deleted_user 01/17/2008

In the words of the great philosopher Ricky Lake....YOU GO GIRL
LOL

deleted_user 01/17/2008

Emotional blackmail is one if the worst kinds. Ive had that happen to me... " if you dont do this i'll kill myslef...if you dont do that i'll kill myslef " and its very draining not to mention the fact that its so unfair. Im not having a go at you hunny but youve got to stop feeling so responsible for him. This is a man who has hurt you how many times? And now that hes not getting it all his own way...hes threatening suicide. He needs help, I agree...but not from you. You need to think about you and as long as you feel responsible for this man...you will never get on :)

RockNMetalChic 01/17/2008

THANKS KATE- YEAH I AM PLANNING ON GETTING IN TOUCH WITH SOME OF HIS FRIENDS AND FAMILY AND LEAVING THE ISSUE ALONE- U KNOW HONESTLY THE MORE I THINK ABOUT IT- IF I DO HAVE A BABY- DO I WANT IT AROUND A MAN LIKE THIS? I'D RATHER RAISE THE BABY ALONE- I HAVE FRIENDS AND FAMILY TO SUPPORT ME AND I KNOW I'M NOT RESPONSIBLE- ITS JUST THIS NAGGING DEMON IN MY HEAD THAT SAYS HEY U DID THIS U REALLY MESSED UP AND NOW U HAVE TO FIX IT- THATS MAINLY WHY I JOINED THIS SITE-I NEED SUPPORT LIKE ALL OF U HAVE GIVEN AND ADVICE- HELPS TO HEAR OTHERS OPINIONS ON THIS- FAMILY AND FRIENDS WERE TOO CLOSE TO THE SITUATION AND THEY JUST DIDN'T UNDERSTAND....

deleted_user 01/17/2008

yea, Kate1971, i can relate
if ya don't stay with me ill kill myself blahblahblahblah ok, kill yurself then. He looks at ME like im totally crazy!

deleted_user 01/17/2008

Its hard, I know rock :) And you will feel bad...its human nature but im not sure why. I just hope your strong enough to be able to getover this guilt that you feel :)

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