Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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DepressedRecluse 01/15/2009

and that scares me...

i've been dealing with this depression thing for about a year...i don't understand how depression takes away my desire to care...

my relationship with my boyfriend is slowly wasting away...i still love him very much, but i'm starting not to care...and i don't know if it's him, me, the depression, or what?

last year, it was my son and my fiance that got me through the depressed feelings...not anything they did...but i just knew that i loved them and they loved me, regardless of what i did or didn't do...but my relationship with my boyfriend has now gone from bad to worse, in that we don't even talk that much...and i don't care anymore that we don't talk...it used to bother me, but lately i just don't care...i don't have the energy to care...or to worry about us.....i just don't know what to do...i feel confused, frustrated, and I DON'T CARE...why?

has anyone else experienced this, and if so, is there anything i can do...

if i think about him, or see him, i know i still love him...but right now i kinda feel like that saying...'out of sight, out of mind'
because if he's not hear or doesn't call me, i don't think about him, its like i don't care anymore...

i'm sorry, i am just rambling, but this is wierd to me...if i love him, why don't i care anymore?

thanks again guys

-DR-

deleted_user 01/15/2009

hi. in a way i know what you mean. it didn't happen with my boyfriend, but my friends. i didn't care about them or what they thought of me and didn't care that i didn't care. but it was the depression that was behind the thinking, and it did get better. it was slow, but it involved taking time to talk to them, even though it was hard because i didn't want to. like you say, out of sight out of mind. sometimes just an e-mail. then the mood lifted.
i hope things work out for you. take care.

deleted_user 01/15/2009

its called *Just got tired of caring attitude* since yu prolly are never gonna care as much as I do and put as much effort into this relationship as I have....a slow realization into reality that this relationship is not working anymore...and yur gettin dang tired of it!

lizgirl 01/15/2009

Try to focus on the good the two of you have together and know it is all ok. This feeling of not caring is usually for no reason. I have been married a long time and feel this way but feel more like distant in my relationship with my husband for no reason. My real test is noticing my interests in my hobbies and my love for my rabbits just dried up. And it is all for no reason. If you have real reason why you don't care then it is ligitamate. I would stay together and work on what does make you feel your best when you are together and know all is well. And soon there will be a time when those feelings will go away and you didn't have a major loss in the process.

deleted_user 01/15/2009

I am losing my b/f slowly but surely also.

we cant spend time together, and the longer it goes on, the less I care.

it's like the longest lasting breaking up phase ever.

we care for each other a lot, but life and crap is just not giving us a break. thus it will end eventually....

Hope you have some peace around you at least.

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