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Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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fatalerror0x00 09/25/2013

So I got a new job recently (almost a month now). I love this job I got the position I've always dreamed of, other then owner. But tonight and I guess with all the other change I've changed myself a lot. I broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years and 6 months. :( I'm really upset. I was fine all night after it til I got home and she saw me get on and waited a bit to talk to me. She's being nice and fairly understanding. But I'm just torn now that we are talking and I feel like this horrible person who just ruined her life :'(

heretic 09/25/2013

Congrats on the job, that is wonderful.

As for the former girlfriend, you just have to give it time.
Being able to stay friends is a really nice thing. Don't
think you ruined her life, just think of it as a chapter in
life and you both need to move forward now. Guilt is a
heavy thing to carry. Just be glad she is understanding
and try to develop a new kind of relationship with her.
A friendship. Time will heal the wounds. Big Hugs

fatalerror0x00 09/26/2013

I'm doing all I can to keep things going between us as just friends. But it's really tough when your trying to be very gentle. I know I should be standing my ground better then I am right now, but currently doing what I can to make it all easier for her. She is begging for me to wait on making a final decision til after I talk to my therapist tomorrow. I told her after some arguing and questioning the point of this. Said I will wait but I'm not changing my status I'm not playing by dating rules we can say we are together but also not really together and she was alright with that and I basically told her I'm still saying I wanna move on tomorrow when I get back either way and she said that was okay but just having one more night will help her feel alot better.. I'm gonna try and sleep now I'm getting to the point I can barely think without messing up or getting side tracked my mind is taking a real beating tongiht

WallyBear 09/26/2013

I'm So Happy To Hear About Your Job :) That's Great!!!!

I Agree With Heretic...........Give Your Relationship Some Time.
And No, You Certainly Didn't Ruin Her Life.

Good Luck Honey.
((((HUGS))))

muskrattiger 09/26/2013

I am very happy for you for getting the job you wanted ............it is better to be honest about the relationship. Than to stay in one it would be worse later now you at least have a chance to be frends if she can do that she might need time but you can't look at it like you are running her life ......if it I sent right than it is better to end it now she will find someone else and so will you .......give it some time to settle ......god bless

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