I know what it is like to feel that...I am Director of Technology for a company here in Los Angeles and when major projects are here it just seems that the guys that I have on my team don't cut it. But on day-to-day tasks they rock! My wife used to hate me leaving a mess around the house but I changed my ways and now help out everyday with everything. Hell, she told me to stop doing so much now and I refused. Just take it in stride and realize that you are an awesome person because of everything that you do handle! Come here and get it out! That is what I do! Hope your day gets better!

I am a stay at home mom, and my husband is going to be out of town for 6 weeks, so everything is on me now. But hey, at least I don't have to pick up after him for a while! :o)

Cheer up this too will pass, come vent here at DS we will support you!

I totally know what you mean, its college! You have 5 classes with 15 projects due at the end of the semester and prof's don't think about you having other classes and projects! I've been going to school for 3 years straight, summers included with no breaks. I'm ready to be done! Only a month and a half! I say hang in there, it will be ok, you'll get it done. You should talk with your husband and tell him he needs to clean too and that you need his help! Good luck!

Cali123, I went through the same thing about 20 yrs ago. I was so overwhelmed at work and nobody else knew my job. People offered to help, but I was too busy to take the time to teach them. I ended walking out one day.....no notice, no goodbye,kiss my ass, nothing....and I never went back. Turns out I had a nervous breakdown. Don't let yourself get to that point. Try to get help.

Time to teach hubby to pick up after himself - youseenothing, what got you to change??

Your job sounds very demanding. my last job was a bit stressful as I was the only one who knew about the projects and reports etc that needed to be done.
You really need to take care of yourself. I ended up having a nervous breakdown- that doesn't mean you will. Just make sure to do small things for yourself like a nice hot bath or a movie. If you don't take care of yourself it's harder to handle everything else.

I totally understand. I became a single parent last August. I'm raising 2 kids and working full time in a new career (real estate). It's very to juggle. I was stressed when I was in my marriage, but in a different way. I was primary caretaker of the kids, worked part time, and picked up after hubby. Now I don't pick up after hubby, but 100% is on me now. I have found that delegating chores helps. You can't do it all. My kids have chores that they are responsible for. I was trying to do it all, but was going insane. I'm still working through the kinks, but some days are better than others. Just do what you can. You need to make sure that you're ok, or you won't be able to do anything. Venting helps alot! :)

I know exactly how you feel. I don't sleep much these days and when I do I don't want to wake up because like you I face a household where I have to do it all or nothing gets done. But then I remember to breath, I read a few posts and don't fell so alone anymore.

starfish: what got me to change was the fact that my marriage is on the line. It was either do it because I know my wife has asked me to help more around the house or lose everything that I have in my life. It took me a long time to figure that out but I am doing a lot around the house now. Hell, my wife told me that I was doing too much now!

I know how that is and working and you are the only one that is doing anything when the co-workers you work with whether walk around and talk about decorating a room of the library that is where I work at a public library then do their jobs when you need to be getting ready to open. Why don't you ask your boss if you can train someone to help you out at your business so you don't have such a big work load. Where I work I am not allowed to move forward because I get treated like I am stupid and dumb and that is very stressful.

I get stressful at home because I live with my mom with my kids. I had no choice because I was court ordered to live here by the judge because my ex says I am not able to live on my own alone with my kids. That is very stressful because I am not allowed to do things my way because my way is easier and faster to get the house work done and go to work during the week too. I had a husband that sat and watched me clean and take care of our daughter that was before our son was born. He would complain because the house or the apt we shared wasn't clean enough or the dishes weren't put away fast enough after I did washered them. I worked at night and slepted but he didn't like that because of it, or he wasn't getting attention or his clothes washered because I wouldn't leave my daughter alone in our apt that was next door to a laundermat.

Cali, try to take a deep breath, read all this good advice, and realize that you can't do everything. try to get someone at work that you trust and can rely on to do things at least somewhat like you would, and pick your battles. if the house isn't perfect, big deal. you have to realize that if you don't take care of yourself in the short run, you won't be around later. (read: all those other breakdown stories!!) we try too hard to be super people to prove that we can, that we are just as capable as those w/o depression, so we think we have to be even better. and in the meantime, we watch those around us not really trying at all. fine for them, but that doesn't mean you have to pick up all their slack. be kind to yourself.

Thanks to everyone for your wonderful advice! I stayed home from work today so I can recover (I went home sick yesterday). I am truly taking your advice to heart. It also feels good that I can relate to others who understand.

God bless you all!