Sounds like a complex situation. Depending on your body weight, surgeons MIGHT not offer surgery until you lose enough weight to be safe. Another reason is if too heavy, surgery would not last .. you would just need it again and again. There is a point where one's weight is simply too great for regular human anatomy.

Again, I do not know what your weight is.

Walking on 'bad knees' is not good either, ... just causes more damage.

I think you need to talk to a doctor .. about weight and orthopedic problems ... and take his or her advice.

I'm sorry your parents are giving you such a hard time. I know what knee issues are like, I'm 25 and most of the time have to use a cane because my knee pops in and out at will, and now the other knee is starting. It sucks, I feel you.

Getting braces would be a good idea. They do help. Maybe try to compromise with your dad... say you don't think you're at the surgery point either. You want to get the braces so that your knees get better and possibly not even need the surgery. Sometimes braces can help you build up muscle and things to help your joints.

In the future, if things do end up that you really need the surgery to move around, suggest doing one knee at a time so you can use crutches instead of being in a wheelchair?

I have really loose joints due a genetic disorder. No fun, I know that. Best wishes, hope you’re able to get the surgery you need at some point.

Sounds to me like surgery is going to be no good till you can lose enough weight to not cause harm. Have you investigated stomach stapling or anything?

I'm with losing weight first. Stomach stapling or something. I've known several people counting my cousin, and all recommend it.

It's hard. I've given up pop. Next is limiting my chocolate and milk intake.

All three things I love. I have lost 20 pounds since giving up pop a month ago last day before yesterday.

I've even gone without pop at restaurants. I either get lemonade or hot chocolate.

I know if I limit chocolate and miik I will lose more weight.

It's kind of hard to lose weight though. Because my boyfriend keeps telling me I'm beautiful. I know he's not lying he really thinks I am. I'm not gonna tell him to stop either lol. That's something no one has genuinely told me.

Whelp I'm gonna continue to lose weight. I've been doing my best to exercise and eat less.

I do want braces for my knee( s). Almost every time I've had braces before they have helped.

I don't want surgery. I nevef want surgery. I just want the help I need