Nah, nothing wrong with you. Lots of people become withdrawn when they get depressed. That's how I am with my real life friends. It's probably for the best with me because when I'm depressed I'm dull and boring and easily angered.

ur not terrible or selfish, it's depression. i hope that you can help urself not isolate. i do it. it's not healthy but it's a symptom of depression.

the friends on here stick around bcz they understant what ur going thru, mb ur RL friends don't.

I cannot judge you. And that's not what this forum is for anyway. But I can tell you that using language such as "bad" and "terrible" to describe yourself will only perpetuate your low self-esteem and depression. Been there, done that, got the t-shirt.

So you're not perfect in the Friendship Department? So you disappear sometimes? These things do not make you a bad person.

I hope that you can find some comfort and fellowship here on DS.

I'm dealing with this myself. I will go days not speaking to the people that love me and are always there for me. It doesn't make you a horrible person. It doesn't make you a selfish person. And I can tell you this because I often beat myself down and tell myself that. The people that love you will have patience and understanding that depression is a disease. There's nothing wrong with you at all. Just love yourself. (I'm trying to do this myself!!) Good Luck and remember your worth ALWAYS.

We can't be everything to everyone. It's just too high of a bar to set for ourselves. Much of the time what we 'feel' is being horrible to someone is perceived quite differently to other people. Try not to be hard on yourself. Hugs

ur a great friend!! i "stick around" cuz i love u and ur there for me when u can be:)

wow... thanks for posting this. I have been thinking about this a lot recently. In fact I just wrote an email to a friend apologizing just 15 min ago. Today I was supposed to go to a christmas concert at a church. I was just so tired and depressed, I didn't returen her missed calls. I feel bad. I do this quite a lot. I have made plans in the past with people but thyen that day comes and I feel like total shit so I ignore them when they call or come to my door. I thought I was alone in this. There are also times where I'd do this for days or even weeks. Thanks for letting me know I'm not alone. You're not alone too!

I do the same exact thing you do, and I also am horrible at keeping in touch with people. I don't think it necessarily makes you a "bad friend," it's only natural that if you withdraw you won't be able to be there for your friends.

On the other hand, if someone is specifically asking you to lend an ear or a shoulder to cry on and you turn them down then that's more like being a "bad friend." Also, I don't know what you want out of your friendships but I have been trying to make an effort to check on how my friends are doing. Because that's what I would like them to do for me.

You're not a bad friend for being withdrawn but do remember friendships are give and take~

I do that to people : ( It's about me and not them. I warn people so no one gets hurt. It's ok to behave as you like as long as you minimize the damage. I know you don't mean to be hurtful, but don't feel guilty either. You is not well : )

I don't think you're alone in this. I also think that especially here, folks understand this, as many of us are the same way. You do what you can, when you can, and those who want to be a part of your life will be! Hugs, and hey..you are not selfish! You are human, and you have depression!

u r not a bad friend.

You are not a bad friend at all. You have depression and I am pretty sure all of us have been in this position at one time or another.

*Hugs*