Depression Support Group
Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.
The old site was so much more friendly. (Well, apart from the one member who made my life so miserable I had to take a break......) But I can't cope without having somewhere to go that I can just vent. A lot has happened. My oldest son has had a child and is now a single parent which really means I'm co-parenting him. He's a beautiful, bright, pixie of a child and my reason for getting up in the morning. Because, you see, my husband is dying. He has ALS and it's the most aggressive type so he may not have much more than a year to live. He was diagnosed 6 months ago and already he cannot eat or drink so is tube fed. His speech is really poor and he has trouble breathing. My heart is irretrievably broken in two. I have rediscovered my faith in God and pray daily for his healing. He believes he will be healed here on earth but I can hardly allow myself to believe it. As if having to face the thought of losing him at the age of 50 isn't enough, I am consumed by a feeling of dread at the possibility of growing old alone, dying without someone to hold me and tell me they love me. I have known him since we were 11. Life is so unfair.
Unfortunately death is apart of life, some people die within months of being born so I guess your fortunate that you've had such a good relationship with someone for so long
However that doesn't stop the fact knowing your going to lose someone is a horribly painful thing, grief is a horrible thing and growing old alone is a horrible thing
If you find comfort in this, know that you are sparing your husband this suffering, and that is indeed a noble act
I encourage you to keep posting and to report abusers, they should be banned from replying to your posts. Nobody is interested in an arseholes opinion!
There is a very emotional film out, about a child whose mum is dying and this tree like figure keeps entering reality to help this boy come to terms with his grief so he could have a good farewell with his mum. I wish I could remember it now, but maybe it would be too upsetting to watch anyway
Time to start organising some therapy and support groups in case he does pass. I don't want you to have to cope with the pain alone.
Perhaps with time you would find someone else to be with, some people don't find a new husband but actually just find a companion to live with
Where two people care and look after each other it doesn't have to be sexual
I hear young people are also looking for cheap places to share with others
If you find yourself lonely in the future and you look for an answer I'm sure it won't be the disaster you think it might be.
I personally know that if I get too lonely when old I'm going to go into a home or supported housing if I'm very lonely
I am also encouraging everyone to join the campaign to legalise euthanasia so our deaths can be a calm organised thing with loved ones there to comfort us as we pass peacefully into unconsciousness. Hopefully by the time we need it it will be legal.
I know what it's like to think the worse, working on radical acceptance can really help you cope, and keep the hope alive
I wish I knew how to comfort you more and advise you more
Mindfulness, can really help
Buddhist tonglen meditation
It will be ok
Sorry I tend to pick up On how people are thinking and say it
There is always hope for a new scientific break through our recovery
Believing in recovery can actually cause healing in some cases
Hope not...........sending love............