I'm sorry for my pointless sob...

Not pointless. Its our feeling. Some people just think if they ignore the person they will go away. Some people may not say something because they dont want to hurt the other person.

It doesnt get much better when we are older either.

Love ya
Cathy

women do the same... i cant tell you how many times i messaged a greeting to receive no response. men are forced to put so much effort forth online and in real life that it just becomes our thing, and when we no longer see a reason to apply effort to gain something, we dont.

try participating more.

Sorry you're hurting. Don't know what to say except I feel for you and I know what it's like. Dating can be fun if you can do it without expectations, but that is soooo hard. Mostly for me it sucked.

Hang in there; there are lots of good guys out there, but they tend not to be the ones trying to pick up chicks at clubs or other obvious places, so it's harder to meet them.

How do I participate more? That sounds dirty or something ... Woman put a lot of effort out too... Maybe I shouldn't have said "some people" instead...

I don't know how to not think of this... I think I'm going crazy. I have been abandoned by too many people lately. I'm starting to get angry.

Ok, here's my 2 cents.

As I got older, I just recognized it as a form of communication. If you are wrong about what it appears to be, then they will tell you so. If they don't want to take the time to tell you so, then they never will take the time. The bright side? You'd be unhappy with this jerk anyway.... I'd rather be happy.

P.S. Even though women put the effort in, the "men" still don't think that there is "a reason to apply effort to gain something". I think they should reevaluate what they think they will gain, and reevaluate the meaning of love. It's not always about what you gain. sheesh

Hugs, Friend. I can't answer your question, but being sensitive also, it hurts me when people are hurtful or ignore me also. Maybe your depression makes you more sensitive, or maybe you are just a person who is hurt easily by the actions of others, but you are not alone. I am like that, and so are many other people. It's ok, and don't appologize for your sob, it's not pointless. I just hope you get to feeling better, and know you are not alone.

Its hard for me being a guy and dealing with being blown off. I have to be ok with it to get the nerve and approach women. If not...i dont even get a chance to not be alone.

Hi Friend,

Yes, it is a human thing, not just male or female. As a male I can tell you the same thing happens from both sexes in my life. Not sexual with men of course but a sudden change of attitude and no words is hard to fathom.

I just assume those that do that are shallow and not wirth knowing. I make a point of telling anyone if I'm pissed off at them and sick of their behaviour etc. Maybe that's why many don't do it, they are afraid of the reaction. I think it's necessary as I've had a few times when I still have no idea why things happened. That's bad behaviour.

I will say that the mobile phone has changed human begaviour to make it rather pettyy and brief. Some people even break up by text. Imagine that! Texting and mobiles have made it easy to be aggressive and rude when face to face it would never happen.

Not sure what particpating meant from the other poster but I don't think he was referring to anything other than communication.

I have had this done and done it myself. I am not proud of it. It hurt on this side too.

I agree, Friend19, that is is one part of human nature.

I think many have had this happen, and many have done it.

I hope I've explained my non-interest, but some guys don't want to hear it, think they can change my mind. Then POOF!...I disappear. I hope they are not hurt, I tried to explain.

It makes me wonder if a guy is so interested, and all of a sudden stops communicating....is it something I did? I keep coming up with "no". Then just move on.

I can't stand pressure, and I'm not going to pressure myself.

Keep your head up. Every man is not like that.

Hugs, Sweetie.