"idk when im gonna get over it"

Probably when you figure out what you are angry about, and release it. Anger is very destructive and steals one's happiness.

Yes, I dealth with anger for years. Luckily for me it was due to my illness so when I sought treatment it went away. I feel so much better. Anger is the worst emotion out there. It causes so much havoc on our bodies. Do you have a hobby or something you can do to help you relax a little?
Wandering Vet is correct that you need to find the root of the problem. It does steal your happiness and makes you add guilt on top of it. I use to get mad and say things that I did not mean and do things I did not mean to do and the guilt was alot of the time what kept me oeressed!! I wish you much luck. Have you tried journaling? I know even if I am the only one that ever reads it it feels good to get it out. Just write about it. Alot of the times I will write a 2 or more page letter and then after I read it and it is if though geting it off my chest is good I rip it up or shred it and throw it away. Big hugs:)

yep,. anger always destroys .. something.

thanks...idk i think im angry at my family...they are close minded,liars, dont even care that i have flashbacks about one of them SA me , they just fight (mom and dad) and dont care who there hurting and my twin bro gains up on me with my mom, and i just hate them, there i said it....my dad took my journal away from me and read how much i curse him and wanted to die and he yelled at me ...i cnt wait til im 18, nd hes canceling my therapy...im just not a happy teen....ive never been those normal happy living life teens

Why do you feel the need to direct your anger at yourself? Not that I haven't done the same, but just asking.. When you will "get over it" is most likely when you stop carrying all the blame and anger on yourself, and put it where it belongs. Maybe therapy could help you to understand your anger, and reassign it to the right place.. Wishing you all the best..Hugs xxx

I hate to hear about young people in this situation.

"i cnt wait til im 18"

Unfortunately, that is what you may have to do. 'Grin and bear it' for now, but make plans so you can get out of there as soon as possible. I am really sorry it is that way for you. It won't be forever.

lilsquirt: because i am the blame...im the one who was touched and have flashbacks, im the one whose sad all the time, im the one who cuts, and cus its the only place i can put it and not get yelled at because no one can tell me how to treat myself....i was in therapy but havent beeen there since april and my dad is noot letting me go again, hes cutting it off cuz he hates how i tlk about him

and that's just it itzjustme...he wants to keep you there...you are left on your own it seems to deal with this and no one is taking any responsibility for themselves and nothing you can say or do for the moment...and you have to ask yourself, how did you end up feeling like this...it IS NOT yourfault, your actons and certain choices or decisions maybe but if you had been respected in the first place , i'm sure you would have a different coping mechanism, i don't know but they are supposed to be there and help you and they're not, so try and take a few loads off...i know about taking blame, but i know now that if someone hurts me, i have the right to stand up for myself and if i hurt someone , I am responsible for that and i should make it right...and i do undertand that there's not much you can do at 16 so all you can do is your best and wait it out unfortunately...wishing sunshine for you ;)

if someone you live with abused you and is now keeping you from treatment, why not call the child abuse ppl, police, or a social worker? 16 doesn't mean there is nothing you can do. research it and take some action to change things. any one of those ppl i mentioned would be able to help you a great deal.

Since your father doesn't want you in therapy, we need to help you explore other options. It may seem like forever until you're 18 and can make your own decisions, but the time will go faster than you think. In the meantime, please don't hurt yourself. Things will go right, and this moment is not how it's going to be forever.

I was going to suggest a journal, but if your dad is going to read it, then that's probably not a good idea. What about poetry or short stories? That's what I used when I was your age to work through a lot of my pain. Or songs/music, photography, painting? Can you take art or creative writing classes at school?

What I'm getting at is a coping mechanism called sublimation, where you take your anger and pain and use it to create something beautiful or useful.

Do you think some of your anger is because you feel powerless? Your family seems to be standing in the way of what you need and denying that there is a problem. Perhaps getting involved with interesting and meaningful activities in your school or neighborhood would help you stay busy and not so confined by your family.

What are your plans for after high school? Sometimes when we're stuck in a situation for the time being, it can help to focus on the future when we will have more freedom and power of our own.

my dad didnt abuse me an older cuzin did

i asked my dad if i can join drama club cuz i like acting and theater and he said no cuz hes not comfortable with me staying late after skool like past 4 30 wen the kids would stay til 10 s0metimes cuz of rehersal..im taking art class this yr at school i cant draw for my life but im trying now cuz i really wanna start putting a picture on paper wat im feeling.


i journal on here, he doesnt know i have ds

its hard staying after school for things cuz i would have to tell him in advance and i never know wen something wants to stay after cuz they change alot and so i would be able to go...its just too frustraing to stay after school...i asked if i can get a jb working at latchey at the middle school and he said no its for ppl who r going to be 9th and 10th graders wen hes been denying me since 8th grd for a job


and yess the anger does come from being powerless and them standing in my way, and not caring about what happened to me

the future keeps me going, i wanna go to college with my friend or some ther state, i wanna be a child psychologist, or school counselor, and i wanna get married and have lots of kids and be the parent i always wanted :)

is your dad controlling to your mom too? if he is just controlling but not actually abusive....you may just have to keep planning for the future and counting the days till you can get out.

do your parents know about the abuse?

could he be this controlling in a misguided attempt to keep you safe?

ok,so keep putting one foot in front of the other...
its not easy, no matter where yu are in the game of life
yur 16? Anger started destroying me at 14, and continued until I was in my late 30's.
Anger can destroy yu. Crush yur dreams, plans and hopes for a beautiful future. been there, done that. xx

my mom and dad r divorced....but my mom said he was controlling to her wen they were married...he use to beat me and my brother rly rly rly bad! but DYFS got involved and he hit us one more time and beat my bro up 2 more times and my mom called the police and so the beatings stopped.

yea they know abut the abuse , i told my counselor at skool this yr and she called them...my mom took me to my aunts huse after knowing wat happened and ASC and DYFS were called again, i got in soo much trouble, that was my fault....im waiting just waiting for my 18th bday but the only thing im scared of is being alone

so you would rather be hit and beat up instead of alone?
welcome yur aloneness. it seems it took yur mom a while to realize it is OK to be alone instead of in a abusive situation.
don't end up yurself in the same situation.