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I felt ashamed today

Heidiclark
Heidiclark
I was talking to someone on the phone today and ended up admitting that I almost never cook for my family. She knew that I had depression, but I don't think she knew that I had such a hard time with basic functioning like cleaning the house, cooking, etc. She wasn't judging me for it, but I have to admit that I felt ashamed. My son is 14 and most of his meals come from drive-throughs. It's the best I can do right now. Yes he does get fed and we do buy fresh fruit and try to get him to eat veggies as well. I guess I just felt ashamed about it all. Just had to share that. Thanks
lovemyflowers
lovemyflowers
I suffer from anxiety and depression. I can barely make it thru a work day. When I'm home I have absolutely no energy for cleaning cooking. I mean my house is terribly embarrassing. I was told it was part of the depression. Don't be too hard on yourself. Many people who have busy schedules often pick up prepared foods. I have to tell myself thatso iI won't be too hard on myself. I totally understand as I'm right there with you. "Hugs"
thenewlywed
thenewlywed
Oh, Heidiclark, don't make yourself feel so bad over it. You can only do what you can do, and you shouldn't be ashamed of that. My mother and I both suffer from depression/anxiety/etc. and she went through a long period where she did not cook at all. We did sort of the same thing.
Does your son understand that you do all you can for him? Does he love you and know you are a good mother anyway? I am sure he does, and as long as he feels that way, you are doing okay.

I am a newlywed and I almost never cook for my husband, either, and I have felt the same way. Or similar, I suppose, because I don't have a child. Your friends understand you!
I hope you can be okay with that someday. All the effort that you do make outweighs the things you cannot do.
gramybear
gramybear
I'm glad you did share that and as you can see, we are not here to judge you or make you feel guilty. I think you are doing a good enough job on yourself. I too did not feed my boys the best that I could have and we still joke about it now that they are older. I was depressed, and I hated to cook so those two things didn't go together very well. Please don't be hard on yourself. You are still a good mother. Hugs. GB
ZAZAS
ZAZAS
You should not feel ashamed about this. I know people with healthy bodies and mind that do the same thing. (My oldest sister) Hey, her kids grew us healthy. Try not to let it bother you. Does your son complain? That is all it should matter to anyway.
heretic
heretic
I've never cooked, I hate it, and I know about basic functioning when your down, it's hard for me to even take a shower, Don't be ashamed, I'm betting your son is doing fine, Big Hugs
WallyBear
WallyBear
You're a GREAT mom Heidi :)
Please don't be so hard on yourself.

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