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I feel insecure about my scoliosis.

ShepherdGen
ShepherdGen

Hello, it's me again.. I know you've told me but i began feeling insecure again. As you know, Ive had underweight of only 55 kg from 16 to 19 years as a male and I was sitting wrong on the pc desk while playing some video games. Did that cause or worsen my 20° S curve scoliosis?


Sorry for asking again but did I really not worsen it ANY BIT? It was unavoidable and inevitable and nothing I could have done could have prevented it? And nothing I did made my spine or scoliosis worse?

NickyJ
NickyJ
Dear ShepardGen,

I'm not sure if it caused your scoliosis to worsen,but as far as I know, one is born with scoliosis :) but you know, regardless, even if I don't know you---

Sometimes is life--things aren't always clichéd "perfect", but there is the greatest beauty in imperfections. Sometimes the true skill in life is to see the beauty in imperfection. I don't know you, but--- you are beautiful, in every way possible. Sometimes it is difficult to believe that, I know- but appreciate the imperfections, sometimes what makes you different, is your greatest strength.
ShepherdGen
ShepherdGen
That's actually a good answer. I do have to learn this yet...
ShepherdGen
ShepherdGen
Still if someone knows exactly that I did not cause or worsen my scoliosis, please tell.
NickyJ
NickyJ
It is difficult, I know- I found it helped to start appreciating the smallest, and I mean SMALLEST things in life. Looking at things , that looked...well...meh... and finding one good thing about it, that helped me too.
NickyJ
NickyJ
Aaaalso- you know, maybe make a list of all the questions you have about your scoliosis and go directly to your healthcare provider and ask. Sometimes it is better to ask them, than rely on the internet for answers ( trust me- as I am in allied health services- the internet just makes me say "eeeeek"sometimes)!

Have a good day ShepardGen- make today the next good day in many that is to come! :)
ShepherdGen
ShepherdGen
I asked an orthopaedic and a doctor and they said the cause for it isnt known. Its idiopathic. And they also dont know if i caused or worsened it. But i want to hear your assumptions. Did i worsen or cause my scoliosis by having had underweight and wrong sitting positions?
NickyJ
NickyJ
Dear ShepardGen, I think I'd rather be scientific and find out a bit more about scoliosis than just blop my assumptions down, it wouldn't be right if I just grabbed statements out of thin air, would it. But I don't think you caused it :)

Honestly, the more I see in my work, and the more I live in a day, I come to realise that hammering ourselves about the could-have, would-have, should-have's everyday, is so ... pointless. We only have one life, we should live as much in every moment we have, Sometimes the past , the hardships we made it through or are making it through, only helps us for something greater, or gives us the ability and compassion to help others.

So( sorry got a bit off track there) -- don't beat yourself up about the could-have, would-have, should-have's , if you don't know yet. The knowledge will come, but find a reliable source,

And, live life, with all its glorious glitches and uncertainties, because sometimes, that is where the most wonder lies.