Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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Cali123 03/11/2007

I don't even know if I ever knew who I was! I know it's weird, but with all the years of emotional abuse from my family and doing things to try to please them to now with my husband just doing things to keep the peace here, I feel like I have lost touch with myself. I don't know what I really like or what I want out of life. I am so busy taking care of everything to be a good employee/wife/mother that I don't really have time to do things for me. It's been like this for a very long time. Has anyone ever felt this way and what did you do?

deleted_user 03/11/2007

YES! More than once. I had to step back from the situation and gain some perspective. It's not easy to do. You need to take some time for you.

deleted_user 03/11/2007

I have felt this way a lot. I still do, but I think you can start to change this by setting aside specific time for yourself everyday. You could spend time relaxing and trying to connect with your "inner self." This may sound corny but I think it is the first step. Hope this helps.

deleted_user 03/11/2007

YES!!!!!!!!!!!!! My Gosh! The expectations on women are outrageous right? If you take them too seriously, but there can be major drawbacks from not taking any of those things seriously huh? You wouldn't be human if you weren't experiencing the CRAZY feeling

deleted_user 03/11/2007

Felt that way many times, Cali. Know what I do now? I take an hour every night (at least) to myself. I lock myself in the bathroom, take a nice hot bath, tune into some music on my mp3 and block out the world. That's MY time and everyone in my home knows it and respects it. You deserve some quiet time to re-group.

SeekingKnowledge 03/11/2007

I understand how you feel. I feel like I've lost my identity completely. I was a wife (going through a divorce), am a single mom of 2 kids, and trying to juggle work, kids, housework, etc. I feel like I have no idea who I am. I'm a "label"...if that makes sense. I'm trying to figure out who "I" am. Take time out for you. Do things you once enjoyed before being a "label". I hope this helps.

deleted_user 03/11/2007

This is an interesting discussion. I never really thought about it much before, but I realize that I have never known who I really am.

I grew up trying to please people all the time. I think I just morph to whatever people expect me to be. I'm 40 this year maybe I can start to find out who I am - they say life begins at 40!

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