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When I was younger (6), my parents had some marital problems which inevitably turned into a divorce.
My aunt (my mom's sister) who at the time had a little boy that I would play with almost every week. One day (during the divorce) my mother received a typed letter from my aunt that in short said; 1) your the most horrific mother I have ever seen. 2) I don't trust you and I never will. 3) I never want to see you or your kid around my family ever again.
Later, she moved because she was having affairs with married men that lived around her and was confronted by 8 upset wives.
10 years later, my aunt physically and emotionally abused her kids while wasted on alcohol. Not to mention, she also told my great grandmother (who was on her deathbed) slanderous things about my mother, which ended up convincing her to give all her assets ($3.2 million liquidated) to my aunt.
Around 4 years after this incident, she attempted suicide around 5 times. I assume this would be due to the guilt she has about slandering my mother for money.
This year, my aunt continues to beat her kids and have affairs with married men. Unfortunately, now she has an award from the American Mothers. Her entire social life is a lie, it's quite literally all fake. And not to mention she sends my mother things to belittle her about her divorce.
Again I'm sharing this because of a few different reasons. One reason is because I don't know what to do, somehow she keeps showing up to ruin my life. The next reason is because I want to know your opinion of her or if you have ever had someone like this in your family.
That kind of person can ruin your life only if you allow it. Detach. Stop worrying about anything she does. Don't try to find out what she does. If you are worried about her kids, report her to Child Protective Services or to the police.
It doesn't matter what she does. It only matters how you let it affect you. Eleanor Roosevelt was quoted as saying, "No one can offend you without your permission." That is true. Don't let her actions impact you. Just because she says bad things about people doesn't make it true. You know the truth, and that is all that matters.
Her social life probably isn't a lie. People who know her are smart enough to see through the front she has put up. They might be hanging around her only because she has money. When you have money, you have to choose your friends carefully.
Let it go. Stop worrying about her. What she does may be awful, but there's nothing you can do about it. Enjoy your life!!!
The very powerful and the very stupid have one thing in common. They don’t alter their views to fit the facts. They alter the facts to fit the views. Which can be uncomfortable if you happen to be one of the facts that needs altering.
-The Fourth Doctor (Tom Baker), Doctor Who
Try your best to be kind to her. The more she tries to alter you, the more you should resist kindly. You could even show her this quote. Explain to her that she is ruining people's lives. Secretly do some small acts of service for her. (I know it may seem like she does not deserve it. None of us do. That doesn't mean people shouldn't serve others.) Hopefully, the more you serve her, the more her mood will change, but it may take time. Never give up. Never give in.