Hi there, I do remember you. You may not know who i am as I had a name change in the last year....my original username was Kaino. You still may not know me lol...but that's ok :)

I'm sorry you are having difficulty finding/keeping friends. I've dealt with that off and on my entire life. I do have a few close friends but I tend to keep at an arms length from people, but every once in awhile, someone will sneak past lol.

I feel sad about what you said about not wanting to pressure our husband in the way of leaning on him for friendship....I think our spouse/S.O should be our best friend and never feel a pressure to be in that position, but I do understand wanting to have friends other than that as well. I also completely agree with you about it being harder to make friends as you get older. That is gospel truth right there, sadly.

As far as feeling like you have to tip-toe around topics with the women you know, and not be yourself, that I cannot relate with and I am truly sorry you feel the need to have to do that. Yes, there are a few subjects I will not broach with a few of my friends as I know it will end up in an argument, because I have NO problem saying what I think about certain issues (for instance, politics). I have dabbled in the conversation with them, but I prefer not to as I know where I stand and where they stand so I leave it alone lol.

I wish I had something good to advise instead of babbling here on your post. Maybe others will have better ideas. I know I have made a few very close friends here on this site and for that I am grateful!

*Big hugs* and I hope you and yours have a great Xmas :)

Hi! A couple of weeks ago, I posted something very similar to this if you care to look it up. It was titled "anyone else short on friends?" Quite a bit of great feedback on that. I know exactly how you feel. I am 46 & have only 1 close friend that is moving away next summer. I tend to keep people at arms length & dont socialize alot. I have been hurt SO many times by so called friends, that I am half afraid to seek new friends. I like to be by myself, with just my husband & son. I have "casual" friends that I talk to at school & around town, but no close relationships with them. I sometimes think I am "defective", not able to bond close relationships with other women. In my small town, the women are so clicky & superficial & I find it to be too much work to be thier friend. I pray to God all the time to let me be more open.
Hope you find the support you need. Nancy

Hi mbowden -
I'm sorry that you feel that way. I don't really have friends, either. I "talk" to the friends I have via email and text mostly, but I haven't seen them in years. I don't know if that is healthy or not, but I really don't mind. My boyfriend of 9 years is my best friend and I love our little family with our 2 dogs. Have you thought about getting involved in your community? Do you belong to a church? How old are your children? If they are of school-age, how about getting more involved in your kids' school Parent Association or volunteering? I'm sure you could meet a lot of women your age that way. You could suggest a monthly dinner with a few other women and go from there. Find out about classes in your community. Maybe there's a cooking class or other class you could join. I'm sure there are many women in your same situation looking for the same thing you are looking for. I'm thinking of you. Good luck and be well.

You know, I'm not sure if people like you or I are not the norm. Do people really have tons of friends as the Lifetime movies and Hallmark ads would lead us to believe? I have never had more than 1 or 2 friends in my entire life. I don't keep in touch with anyone from high school. I feel like I'm missing out. I was never in a sorority. But, then again, I don't think that is me. If I had all those friends I wouldn't know what to do with myself.

The friends you do make as you get older are the ones to cherish. They are out there. It just takes more work. Best of luck to you!

Thanks so much everyone for your feedback. In response to Kaino, my husband is my best friend and he's fine with that, I just feel like I get too needy because I don't have more women friends. I also don't like tip-toeing around topics with these women, but have lost friends in the past for being blunt, which makes me wary to be completely honest with people. It's part of why I think my friend dumped me a year ago - long story. Anyway, maybe I just need the time to heal so that I can open up to people and be myself and not worry about it.

Nancy - I will work on tracking down your post about this subject to get more input.

Thank you, TwoBoyz, for all your ideas.

And Twoleftsocks - I hear you about the Hallmark ads. Nope, life is definitely not like that. I guess I just miss the closeness I thought I had with the one friend. I do feel a big hole since she's not in my life anymore, but am very thankful for the relationships I do have. I guess it will happen when it happens in terms of having closer friendships with other women.

Thanks again one and all and happy holidays!

Hi. I'm Cindie. Would you like to be friends? I know what it's like to be friendless. It's no fun. I come into these sites seeking new friends. Feel free to message me anytime. I'm here for everyone. Hugzz to you.

I remember you. like you i have no friends either cept for on here. i fully agree with you on the stuff about wanting to just be yourself. it is very hard to do. i know just what you mean. you should not have to tiptoe around any topic. . please feel free to talk or post about anything at all. in my opnion that is what this site is for. to be yourself, and to be able to say anything! yell rant, scream, vent. anything! I hope this is helpful . i dont know about the advice part,except for 1 thing i have found to be of help. keep posting and reply to as many post as you can. that is how i met the friends i do have on here.