Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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ShepherdGen 04/19/2018

I dislike people and always wanna be alone. Is this ok? People make me anxious a lot and i just want to be left alone. Im 21 years old. Anyone else feel the same?

SwimBack2031 04/19/2018

yep yep yep i am 21 years old too and this happens to me... lonliness crippling though and it feeds itself for sure. So even through the social anxiety I try and be around some people even if it is just my roommate. gentle hugs for you

Notfeelingit132 04/19/2018

Im 18 years old and I feel the same way. Its okay to be the way you are but sometimes we have to break out of this funk. You should never fight situations alone, you are better than this come on lets be honest here! Everyone here will help guide you through this, because you arent alone. You are apart of a family on here.

warrior2 04/19/2018

I am 50 and still struggle with wanting my own company over the company of others, but I also know that I have to work on seeing into the true reasons why I do not like other people. I, like so many others who have been victims of trauma, have deep reasons not to trust people, do you feel the same way? Trust is just not a safe thing to give people, so I would just believe that I was "special" and that they did not deserve me. There is some truth in this. Nobody deserves to be around a person who does everything they can to be disliked! That was me, bigtime. I try now to break out of the cycle by going to a coffee shop and smiling at other people, I might even say something short and kind if the opportunity comes up. It is tough to do, but very rewarding as it gives me the sense of joy to know that I have the power to get out of this mindset.

WanderingVet 04/19/2018

>>Is this ok?

if it's OK with you it is. If you ask a mental health expert, they may say it's 'OK' but a bit unnatural.

robotnik 04/20/2018

Wanting to be alone is ok but other people may not see it as ok depending on how much solitude you need. For example, people would become a bit suspicious of a total loner. Just what I think 'cos people are naturally gregarious for the most part, only a few humans are hermits etc. Some people need more alone-time and are introverts - nothing wrong with that.

Not liking people is also ok 'cos people suck but this is the thing you're a human so you suck too which means you should be compassionate to other humans and be patient with their faults etc. Is it ok not to like people but still love them, as perhaps certain Christians might do? They say if you try hard enough you can find things to like about people.

Dynamaniac 04/23/2018

I don't see anything wrong with this except that we were not created to be alone. We are social in nature. What are the reasons you don't want to be around other people? Is it a fear? Is it just a general dislike? Are you uncomfortable around other people and the fact that they may not like you? Is it impairing your ability to function in a healthy way with society?

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