>>back in December my sister accused my boyfriend of doing something I know he didn't do. I know he didn't because he was with myself and 2 other friends all night the night in question. Yet that is not enough for anyone to be convinced of his innocence. My sister caught off me and my parents (for not cutting me off) and turned the entire family against me.

Not sure I understand what you are saying.

In any case ... you are quite young ... and probably depend on your 'family' more than I do mine .... but for me .. if people thing wrong of me ... or don't like me, .... or 'cut me off' .... fine with me ... it's their problem, not mine.

Now, I admit, this may not apply to you .. your situation is probably vastly different. It's just that is the only advice I have for you ... what would work for me.

I hope you can resolve all this soon. Good luck to you.

Hey , so i think what you are saying is that you family dislikes your boyfriend because they think he did something wrong, but you know he didn't and because you refuse to break up with him, they have started ignoring you. Am i right?

If this is the case it is a really horrible situation for you and im sure you could use the support of your family right now!

If you haven't already i would very strongly advise you to go talk to a counselor about this situation, because you need someone who you can talk to face to face confidentially about this and if you family wont that sucks but you need to find someone or you will go crazy! Anybody would!

We are all here for you, I had a friend who's sister was put in a very similar situation to this by her family because she decided to stop following their religion. It's not a nice situation but it does sadly happen.

Is there a distant relative you could maybe talk to this about who you can trust not to tell your parents? Maybe an Aunt or cousin?

Please try to stay strong and whenever you feel down you can always come here for support!

Best of luck please keep us updated!

Thanks for your replies.

Yes Jay, you have it about right. To clarify, my sister accused him of something wrong. Illegal wrong, and got the police involved. The police investigation found he had alibis and no other evidence was found against him, so the investigation was closed.

My parents told her they would remain neutral to avoid conflict, my sister went to the ENTIRE family and told them all as if it was fact. They believe her. They have cut me off entirely. While I am not that close to my extended family, it does hurt to have my cousins, aunts, uncles, grandparents, ect. cut me off. No more family holidays, no more cousin stuff. It hurts they would believe the accusations and believe I would stay with someone who did what he is accused of. They also cut my parents off because my sister told them that my parents accused her of making it up.

My parents, while originally wanting to remain neutral, miss the family and my sister (who obviously will not let them see her son, their only grandchild...she has been using him as leverage). They have started to push me out. (I am in college and live with them right now) They drop all kinds of hints about how they want me gone, even to the point of offering to take care of my pets (so I can find a place easier) and money. They switch between the cold shoulder and yelling at berating me constantly. If I ask them straight out "do you want me gone?" they act shocked and say no, where did I ever get that idea? I tell them, they denying saying or doing any of it. I am terrified they are going to end up deciding to just kick me out.

So talking to any of my family at all about it is out of the question. And because of the delicate, personal nature of the issue, I feel like I have no one to talk about it with. I tried a counselor once, while I liked talking to her, she wanted to recommend me to another location to better suit my needs and I felt really uncomfortable talking to another person about it so I chickened out and didn't go where she suggested I go. I don't know if I should try them or not.

Sorry if my first post was unclear, I was really upset at the time and just wanted to get it out there. It is easy for me to be overwhelmed by this at times. I feel like at any moment, I could get kicked out. Because my sister turned everyone against me, I would have no where to go. Everything else in my life is also become a struggle because my stress is messing up every other part in my life. My boyfriend is obviously extremely grateful to me for standing up for him and tries to be as supportive as possible, but its hard because he is also directly involved, he gets angry or upset too. Us both being upset doesn't help anything. Thanks to you guys who replied, and anyone else who might. It has been nice to finally vent everything some.

I am so sorry that you are going through this.

You say you don't want to talk to your family about this, or that you can't talk to them. What I see is that you have "lost" your family already, so why not talk to them? Let your parents know that in their attempts to be neutral, they have cut you off.

Some have suggested you talk to a therapist. You might want to talk to a lawyer. There is something called alienation of affection; basically it means that somebody is working to destroy relationships that you have a right to have.

Fight for what should be yours!