it's ok to rest. sending peace and love your way.

I've been there. I spent so much time in bed at one point i got dizzy getting out of bed. Panic attacks when i had to open my front door. This feeling does not last forever. It will go away. Take some time and rest.

I had to let the feelings come without holding them back. Once i accepted the feelings and started to process them I was able to let them go. Everyone is different. You might not see a way to the shore right now but believe me it is there. Waiting for you. Just imagine all of us there (strangers you have never met) waiting there for you to swim out like we all did.

I appreciate both of those comments. It just seems so helpless.

its normal, its part of being traumatized....please dont see yourself any less or different....you didnt have a choice in being betrayed. hang in there, go see a doc also as antidepressants were really helpful for me to help me cope

I can't say much I'm in pretty much the same situation. Finding reasons to get up are melted away by the soft, cozy comfort of the blankets and pillows. Somehow we have to push ourselves out of our comfort zones. Staying in bed isn't resolving anything. I guess we make our goals for tomorrow and do the best we can.

Ending a relationship is a good reason to get depressed. I would consider seeing a Psychatrist and possibly antidepressant to help you during this difficult time. Exercise helps a lot. Staying in bed is not good. Meditating, praying has helped me a lot.

i can leave a message here but i cant find the last post to me?

Hmmm I'm not sure

I understand completely how you feel, I'm so sorry you're in such a dark place. When I'm similarly indisposed, breaking down my actions (and acknowledging the courage to do so with each step) sometimes helps. 5 seconds of courage can go far for me. Like, I'll think to myself, "5,4,3,2,1..lay on your back", and I do it just to remind myself I have control of this one thing. Then I'll say, "gently sit up on your bed", and focus only on this single action, being nice to myself. If I do it, and if it was something I had to try and force myself to do, I make a mental note of it ("I tried a total of 2 times today and that really does make me feel good"). I'll move on with, "touch your feet to the floor", "go to the bathroom", "eat something", "spend 10 seconds in the sun", and so on and so forth. Small, easy steps (which you have to allow yourself to appreciate and thank yourself for, which I know is very difficult) that take small doses of courage. Then practice, practice, practice this, every day if you can, with mindful kindness towards yourself. Everyone is different, of course, just thought I'd share in case it helps.