Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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drew4lostluv 01/08/2015

I just now realized that I've been torn apart by vultures. I forgot who I used to be because I haven't been that man in many years. I let people belittle me and derate me in order to avoid confrontation. I see this now because of a dream I have had, a subconscious happening that took place which I am truly grateful. Now I have to put myself back together. Change who I am, back to who I was. I've been a different person and I've found myself, It's liberating. You live a lie for so long that your life becomes a lie and you become less than > who you are. I had to write this down as soon as I could.

I wrote this down mere seconds after I awoke.
I know that I haven't been on in a while but I wanted to share this with you, people who understand how it feels to be knocked down.

TheHunger 01/08/2015

It's hard to put yourself back together... But just remember: Life is a journey. Getting to where you were before is going to be a lot different than how you got there the first time, because you've visited a lot of other destinations since then, and you're not starting from the same place as before.

solitaryorchid 01/08/2015

This sounds like a very positive step for you. I definitely understand feeling like depression makes you someone other than yourself. I have tried to explain that to others with little luck. I would give anything to feel like myself again. Sounds like you have made great progress.

drew4lostluv 01/08/2015

I've been building myself back up for a while now. I lost my wife almost 2 years ago on March 3rd. I thought her death was what messed me up so bad. It definitely had a big part to play but the 6 years or so after I was married had a lot to do with it. Her family constantly belittling me took a lot out of me, literally changed me.
It made me less of a man. I conformed, almost brain washed in a sense.
I don't know what it was about this dream but I felt liberated when I woke.
There are things that I have to do get back where I was but I actually think it's achievable now.
I feel as if I can do anything. Thanks for responding.

drew4lostluv 01/08/2015

I literally didn't know how your subconscious can hold something back that could change your whole way of thinking about things, like you opened up a door to your former self.

ZAZAS 01/08/2015

You can do it. Just keep that momentum going. As for me, being around negative people and being depressed causes me to lose myself. I was basically letting others control what I thought and felt in order to avoid conformation. Glad you found you way back to yourself. Hang in there.

LuvMyTitans 01/08/2015

Hi sweetie.

I'm so glad to see you back and especially glad to read your post. You know that I'm aware of a lot of the dynamics that have happened to you regarding your H's family. I'm so happy that you are finding yourself again. You're a good man and you CAN do anything. I hope you continue to build on this momentum and I wish you all the best in the world.

((((((((((((((( HUGS )))))))))))))))

LMT

Cypressmoon1 01/08/2015

Awesome! We can be the main destroyer of ourselves when we allow others to say who we are. Unfortunately, I isolate just to try to keep this problem at bay. As soon as someone could possibly disappointed in me, my world falls apart and I bolt. The whole thing is just so exhausting....

I think you're on the right track. Nothing can change who you are at your core. Loving that core is the key. Hope your dreams keep getting better and better.

drew4lostluv 01/27/2015

Thanks all who responded to this post. Things are still going well. I met up with an old friend. She helps me remember my past and restores a lot of the confidence that I had. I don't look to anyone to be my confidence builder though. I am my biggest supporter. I very much enjoy reading your responses and I love you all.

debsue123 01/27/2015

Hi Drew...i lost who i was 15 yrs ago and i dont know if i can ever get that person back again. I loike you let people tear me apart insTead of confrontation but i think people take advantage of depressed people because we feel more. And i justt can identify with you thanks for sharing. Deb :)

LuvMyTitans 01/27/2015

Thanks for checking in sweetie.. I'm so happy things are still going well.. yay! That makes me happy.. Love you!

gramybear 01/27/2015

Its so wonderful to hear from you again and with such great news!! Welcome back dear friend, you were really missed!! Hugs GB

ThePepperMan 01/28/2015

Thank you for sharing your good news!

I think that our subconscious is just another part of our mind that tries to make us accept things that we struggle to deny when we are awake.

ZAZAS 01/28/2015

You can do it. I spent years in the rut of letting people treat me like crap in order to avoid arguments. That just does not work. If you don't love and respect yourself, no one else will either. I got rid of my emotional, verbal abusive significant other a year ago I have not felt better in 10 years. I hope it works with you too. I used to be a different person before I moved in with him. . I really miss her. But, now, I am a different person again. I have closed those chapters of my life and writing a new book.

macabrina 01/28/2015

I'm so happy for your. Your excitement about your future is encouraging to hear. It brings me hope. Please, continue down this path you're on. It sounds like a wonderful place for your to be. I look forward to reading your progress.

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