Depression Support Group
Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.
I am so socially inept and I can't figure out why. I was wondering if there is some mental illness that has this as a symptom, I seriously thought of going to a dr to see what is wrong with me. I don't get hints, I get most sayings people use (I actually have to ask "what does that mean?"), I say things that people say are mean or rude and I didn't think they were rude or mean, I don't get a lot of "social" things. I even had to research "business-casual" before I could go out on a date because I didn't knwo how to dress "appropriately". My idea of appropriate dress isn't "dress in this pants, this shirt, with this style shoe and blablabla", it's more like "Don't go naked, remember to wear clothes."
Anywhoodles, I am rambling but I am frustrated with myself. I am off to bed now. Wonder if there is some screw up I can manage while doing that from my social ineptitude! I just wish I knew why I am such a social retard.
Anywhoodles, I am rambling but I am frustrated with myself. I am off to bed now. Wonder if there is some screw up I can manage while doing that from my social ineptitude! I just wish I knew why I am such a social retard.
these are "fashion" examples, but what my rambling butt is trying to say is that I march to a different drum and I've embraced it. If you were meant to be like the "flock" (my nick name for boring, normal, lack-of-creativity people), you would be. Love yourself for you...imperfections and all.
Hope this helps.
Secondly and this is just a thought have you looked into Aspergers Syndrome (please excuse spelling) my husband has it and he doesn't pick up on clues be it non-verbal or spoken, the depression makes it worse as it causes him to withdraw even further from life. He wears what the hell he likes and if other people don't like it he doesn't care - in fact he's great and I have learned a lot from him about my perceptions and other peoples. I love him and I think he's marvellous - I wouldn't swap him for anyone. He is frustrating and hard work but the amount of laughter in my life since I met him has been amazing. On our first date for example he took me for a meal he explained the Maastrict Treaty, discussed the existence of God, talked about how Medieval 3 crop field rotation worked and ended the evening by falling over a bin because he didn't notice it!
If you think of yourself as a social retard then that is how people will see you - if you think of yourself as gifted or special then they will see you that way too.
If anyone questions your dress sense simply tell them you were too busy thinking about something else more important! Big hugs, Viv XXX
There's a community on DS for Asperger's I don't know enough about that condition to know if it would help to read etiquette, cultural literacy and current events publications, but they are at least available for reference.
You sound charming in your writing.
I hope that you have a conclusive answer to your situation soon. In the meantime, it may help to consider that almost anything done with confidence and apparent intent will pass muster.