I am truly sorry that your children are treating you with such disrespect. I KNOW you are a good mother and it sounds to me like they are just being selfish, which will surely make you feel just as you are. I found a quote that I was going to put in with my daily journal entry but I think it might help you right now so I"m going to share it with you. Before doing so, I want to wish you a Happy Mother's Day, even though it hasn't turned out the way it should have. Here is the quote for you:

It's easy to feel uncared for when people aren't able to communicate and connect with you in the way you need. And it's so hard not to internalize that silence as a reflection of your worth. But the truth is not about you. Most people (including children) that the way other people operate is not about you. Most people are so caught up in their own responsibilities, struggles, and anxiety that the thought of asking someone else how they're doing doesn't even cross their mind. They aren't inherently bad or uncaring--they're just busy and self-focused. And that's okay. It's not evidence of some fundamental failing on your part. It doesn't make you unlovable or invisible. It just means that those people aren't very good at looking beyond their own world.

I know my telling you that you are a worthy and deserving mother isn't going to help how you are feeling, but I still want you to know how special you are. With Love and Hugs Gramybear

Thank you Gramybear. I have a long road in front of me learning to NOT let this bother me as much as it does. I actually felt a little better after getting mad instead of sad yesterday.

I am hurting today too and trying to get past it. SO SORRY, gordos4, about your kids disrespect!! We do NOT deserve this!! I was SO upset yesterday morning. My oldest son tells me I am family but I am never invited to family gatherings with her side of the family. My dh was working and the roads were snowy but I didn't care. I drove an hour on wet, snowy roads to see my younger son. I wonder if this is not the beginning of a long estrangement. My DIL would be very happy as nothing I do ever pleases her. She has gradually been taking him away from us and we have not been invited over to their house in over a year and a half. I will miss seeing my grandson but hardly get to see him anyway. Oh well. I hope my son can live with himself. I FEEL GOOD ABOUT HOW I RAISED MY BOYS!!! Except when they are adults they have the influence of others and both my dh and I have noticed the change in our son. He has become arrogant and self centered. Hard to watch after all the years of teaching him to be a good person and CARE about others. I did my best! At least I have one son who loves me. HUGS to you and all other hurting Mom's!!!

OMG..I was going to write "Mothers Day Hangover"...but you wrote it for me....I swear we are twins in chaos....All the same....

My younger son considers me dead
My oldest only talks to me for money (although I do feel more of a love bond with him).
My mother didn't answer my Happy Mothers Day text or mention the card I sent to her.

Other stuff happened yest...but this is your post.

I AM SO GLAD you GOT TO THE ANGRY point...I have been there..and it actually helps us not to hurt so bad anymore.

Only I hope that you are not so much like me...because my "anger" stages I have been thru...didn't last long before going back to despair.

I'm sorry you feel like this....and I just wanted to say...you are not alone gordo...

Thank you misssy & kirsch. We all need to remember what the bible says in 2 Timothy: in these end of days, men will become self-centered, lovers of self & disobedient to their fathers & mothers. I do believe the end is near. This is all in God's plan somehow, but it doesn't make it any less painful.

yea..you just scared the shit out of me gordo!
LOL....

Misssy, NO, don't be scared. I am looking forward to it. There is nothing to be afraid of. We will finally be at peace & all the pain goes away.

Thank you for all your posts. I know that I am not alone...my son who lives across the country sent me just a text for Mother's Day also. I was very hurt. Gramybear's quote was so fitting to my situation. I needed to hear that because I don't know how to interpret long periods of silence. To me it says "I don't care about you". But then I do agree a lot of people nowadays are self-absorbed. I put so much time and effort into raising my kids. So did my husband. Only two of our three kids seem to care about us. My son who lives across the country has two children so we rarely hear from.our grandkids either. I am trying to move past my son's disrespect toward me. Some days are good; others are not. He just doesn't understand how much he has hurt us.

orsa, it does hurt. Some people say "well, at least you got a text". Well, I guess I find it so hurtful & disrespectful, I think I would rather not hear from him at all. The LEAST he could do is pick up the phone & call. It shouldn't be so hard to have your children respect you. If I had been a neglectful, abusive mother, I would understand, but I wasn't. You may want to join the "Christian Parents Of Estranged Children" group on here. You will find that this situation is VERY common nowadays.