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virginiagirl
virginiagirl
I was RX'd with MS in 2001 4 months after we were married. Has shown support "in his own way"......but now I am trying to apply for my SSDI, but have to cut back on hours I work.....I just can't do what I used to do and I'm feeling like he is only worried about money......he keeps badgering me on the phone today....I've got the flu and don't know what to do......
Community LeaderWanderingVet
WanderingVet
Hmmm. I don't like the sound of this. I am not an expert, but I don't THINK you can work and collect SSDI maybe.

I think he is MORE worried about money .... because he perceives it as the more immediate problem. He is not the one with MS ... so probably doesn't completely 'get it'.

The only thing that comes to mind is for your Doctor to have a conference with him ... he needs some 'splainin'.
PinterestFan
PinterestFan
Do what's best for you and your health and let him know you feel that he is pressuring you to work more than you're physically able to, and you need for him to accept your health problems. Without any scrimping,
most people have a lot of things they can cut back on, or cut out, every
month, and you're probably willing to make the necessary changes to
not have to work every day, while you're in pain.

Hope you get over the flu soon!
1Patriciann
1Patriciann
When considered too disabled by a specialist with your illness I think there is a requirement that you cannot have been gainfully employed for a minimum of 12 consecutive months -- not positive but that is what I remember -- and then there is, based on my knowledge, a process of evolution for benefits and this can be a lengthy process. Have current copies of all of your medical records and especially important is the official diagnosis from a specialist in the field with medication taken and the treatment followed.