Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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meluhknee 04/07/2015

i lost my grandmother, who was my best friend in the entire world. while she was alive my whole life made sense and i was happy. but ever since she got sick and after she passed i completely lost who i was. i never let myself fully grieve, i just through myself back into school and continued to push myself with a full work and school schedule. not to mention i got married in september, but our marriage has been under alot of strain with the way ive changed. so im thinking my grief turned into depression. im to comfortable with laying on the couch and doing nothing, while either eating the whole time or completely avoiding food all together. ive also lost my sex drive. i mean sex has never really been for me, but i do it because my husband enjoys it and i do get something out of it. but i can go for quite a while before i need anything and this is hurting him and making him look at other women which in turn upsets me because ive caught him a number of times while were out. but anyway, sorry for the rant, im just not sure how to start on the path back to the top, if anyone has any suggestions, they would be greatly appreciated. thank you

mamak1118 04/07/2015

Sounds like you have yourself diagnosed - that's great! - now you just need to do something about it... :)

Do you have a regular doctor that you see? Please put in a call to him/her (if not, maybe your gyno?) and they can get you on the road to feeling better. Can you talk to your hubby about the real reason behind the changes you've experienced? Give him a heads-up that you're going to work on fixing things so that he'll be on board and supportive. The doctor can help you with antidepressants, if necessary, and also make a recommendation for counseling. You definitely need it. It sounds like you and your grandma were extremely close. I'm so sorry for your loss. But I don't think she would want to see you living like this, right? It's time to get back on track. Call your doctor today. You can do this!

meluhknee 04/07/2015

thank you. we were extremely close, she was my best friend in the entire world. My hubby knows the reasons behind my changes, but i think its been this way for so long hes stopped believing it and thinks im just using it as an excuse. Were looking into marriage counseling now so im hoping that something good comes out of that. thank you so much :)

mamak1118 04/07/2015

Best of luck to you, meluhknee! Sounds like you're off to a good start if he's willing to do marriage counseling. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.

meluhknee 04/07/2015

thank you so much! it means a lot to have positive reinforcement. ill take as much as i can get.

ThePepperMan 04/07/2015

It sounds like you have not allowed yourself to go through the grief process. That can cause all sorts of things to back up inside your head, and come out in many ways.

It is your subconscious mind telling you that something is wrong!

There is a bereavement group here, that is a good place to start. Yes, your grief is most likely coming out as depression, but I strongly suspect that it is this failure to grieve that is at the root of your problem.

By all means bring this up in therapy. Your therapist may suggest that instead of doing couples therapy you focus on yourself first.

Gentle hugs

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