A very good question. That is a hard thing for most of us here.

not sure, working on that one myself.....sorry.

What about your children and grandchildren, surely they value you. Young children are very impressionable and I'm sure they love and value your love and care. Everyone has their good points, be it caring, kindness consideration, creative flair, practical qualities etc. Focus on your abilities and your confidence will grow. Take care.

oh how i have lived that my entire life.

i just this week found the true definition of codependency and that is truly what i am. i am learning about it and cannot wait to change it.

You start a diary or a list, everyday you write anything you have done that is good. ie: I hugged my children, I smiled at someone, I made a nice meal, I made the beds. Anything that is positive. Never write a negative. You are of more value than you see unless you realise it.

You have to understand that you must find ways to be happy with yourself before anyone can be truly happy with you...you have something amazing inside of you to offer the world...find it...search long and hard til you find what is inside you that truly brings elation into your eyes.

I sent you a message. One of those suggestions speaks to that question I believe. Hope it helps.

I really do see the value & beauty in me...I'm just so defeated that noone else does. I recognize my strengths and acknowledge my weakness...I'm a work in progress...I think ppl need to realize THAT and appreciate right where you are, this minute -- and be at peace with that. Very hard, I know.

Find someone who values you, If i knew you i probably would. Just because no one so far has valued you, doesn't mean that you can't value yourself, and that other people will never value you.

finally come to place within that accepts me for me with all my strengths and my weaknesses. Acknowledging that I am unique in my personality, experiences, struggles and triumphs and because of those I have valuable stuff to offer to others.

Just look within your own heart and see what is good, not what others have told you or made you feel. Never depend on the outside to tell you who you are or give you your self worth. It comes from within.

One thing that has helped me (that someone said earlier) is just sitting down and making a list of positive traits, adding onto it a bit every day or week. Also, I think that a lot of the time, people are more likely to value those who value themselves.

I love myself by doing the things I need to do in order to maintain my mental health and spirituality.

My depression really sucks right now, so, I could easily fall into really really bad stinkin thinking. So, when I feel like that, I do what I need to do for me; like, come on line, share here/ read a book/ research my illnesses/ play with a kid.

I DON'T

You need to find the qualities that make you an individual. Don't look at all of the things that make you depressed. I'm sure someone along the way has valued you at least for a moment or two. Hey you make mistakes, but everyone does.