this will sound simple and like i don't understand.....trust me i do. that is a hellish feeling and it is hard to over come but you have to just make yourself. i know.... not that easy but you can and you have to. changing the thoughts from i can't to i don't want to but i will can help too. yes, that is damn hard....but it can be done and it will help.

is there something you love to eat or drink? somewhere you do enjoy going to? you have to find something...anything to focus on that can make it that little easier to get moving. the more you look for to focus on the more you might find! again, this may not work for you and is not as easy as it sounds, i know from personal experience, and it won't do it over night but the more you try, the easier it will become over time. basically, we just have to start caring and trying again. good luck and i am sorry you feel so low.

Thanks. It's true. I just feel lately that getting out of bed involves a life I don't think I can handle. So it's not much incentive to get up and going....

yeah, i can understand that one all too well. thing is....we can handle a lot more than we give ourselves credit for. it is hard but we can be amazing when we need to be. once again, it is hard as hell but we can do it and need to. i take it the pressure from what is going on is seriously over whelming?

I agree with the great advise from bmoney...I would add that sometimes, the best I can do is simply not beat myself up...for just staying in bed. you know, that is OK, too. There are times when you sort of just have to wait it out. Keep in mind that it won't last forever...just as sure as the sun comes up everyday...that feeling will lessen and you will feel like motivating again. I promise. I the mean time, just snuggle in your bed sheets and thank god that you have a bed to snuggle in....that is enough for now.
LOVE, LOVE, LOVE
shannon marie

I had to get up early this morning to walk my dog. Then, I made tea and breakfast. And there is one thing and another to do. At times I hate having to go out so much that I decide to get rid of the dog, but I've had him for two years now so he's part of my life.

Sorry for butting in new at this ! I can empathise with you I'm lucky although it doesnt feel like it everyday! My hubby makes me get out of bed physically dresses brings tea first get 10 mins to come to or I eat the head of of him (do anyway lol poor sod) and yes I,m laughing about it but if you dont you would just cry I have 3 kids and have to get up its easier said than done I know but I try real hard to think positive or hubby reminds me not to let it beat me cause we must be really strong people not weak just to have gotten this far? Love and hope for you XX

trying to figure out that one two

it can seem totally pointless...i know the feeling, to some extent at least...

setting goals can work. like before you go to sleep at night-time, write down at least 3 things you are going to MAKE yourself do the next day... like: walk the dog, make a nice meal for yourself from scratch, clean the windows, vacuum the house, buy some groceries, get your hair done, or your nails.... i'd make 2 fun things to do, and 1 necessary NOT fun thing, like a household chore. that way you're not only making sure you feel like you have a purpose and reason to get up, but you're also not just messing around having fun and you're actually getting stuff done that needs to be....

good luck...

as for me, i set my phone alarm to go off 2 hours before i have to catch the bus, so that i can shower, do my hair and makeup nice and not have to rush... some days i just don't bother to do anything because it seems actually impossible to get out of bed. but most days, now, i manage. i just have to FORCE myself to get up. lying awake can get boring anyway. especially if you can hear other people in the house clattering cups and plates and running taps and shouting at each other from different rooms. LOL.

ohhh i have a good idea!! - you could put on a movie in the mornings; that way you could stay in bed but it would be like a gentle transition from sleep, waking up, and getting out of bed :)

portable dvd players work good :D i do that sometimes

xx

Thanks everyone. I know it's the simplest thing - at times - but also the most difficult when you're depressed. While I've come through it in the past, it's hard to remember what finally did it or how long it took before I was up and at 'em again. And until then, it's so hard to just relax and try to remind myself that I need to get better and make that my goal instead of listening to the endless tape that beats up on me every day.

I have barely left this room in 72 hours my back feels like its falling off from lack of exercise my eyes are blooded and my brain is comfortably numb. But I dont feel at all bad cos i have a dream which keeps me company and everytime I close my eyes i disappear into that fantasy world. The more you fight against something the greater your suffering.Lay there motionless let the waves of self emnity just roll over you allow your brain to let go of all attatchment to the physical world. Close down that parental script which is telling you only naughty girls lay in bed .Create a new language based on the reasuringly calm sense that your dreams are part of you that you are connected to everthing and can swith tou internal lights on at will you are secure safe happy .

Remember with depression, waking up is the hardest part.

After that, it gets easier - trust me.

Aw, I remember those days.I spent a wk in bd. I would roll onto floor and craw on my hands & knees to & from bth rm. ( I have apt size refg in my bd rm that I use as a night stand)
Am ashame to say I went 3.5 days w/o showering. I still washed my face. I use the waste backet in my bd as a sinl to spit in after I brushed my teeth.
On 5th day my dearest friend & her husband came over - she stood in shower w me. I managed to put on cloths that she laid out for me. I would lay in floor every chance I could. Her husband would lift me bk on my ft. dang it.
Later that day she returned w cooked food- yep I was bk in bed in clean cloths,lol.
Early that day it was a mood lifter just to have company. yep I felt better - more alive- when she bapitized me,lol.
maybe you could get someone to come over and clear chair in your bd and read to you or watch a show on tv.
The following day my friend, her husband & 1 of her daughters came over - yep I was still in same cloths. will her husband pick me up and sat me in bk seat of thier car against my wishes.
After the short drive I felt so miuch better.
of course I went bk to bd but later that evening I managed to sign while I clean my bth rm & changed the sheets on my bd and started a load of laundry. Thank God my washed laundry hadn't spoiled when I got bk to it 3 days later,lol
Getting up, listing tpo peepy music and taking a shower & getting in to clean pj's will help.
the following day take a shower & go bk to bed.
the following day go tidy up kitchen.
The following day have a friend to come over w a plate of food.
The following day change the bd sheets.
do at least 1 activeity per day.
as like myself you will get your physical entergy back and the depressing will slowly lift.

My dear freind got a neighbour of mine who I didn't know - except to wave at in passing to bring in my mail & paper & tend to my waste cans. My inside can sets by bk door.
People will and want to help but we half to reach out and speak up.

You can do this. Ya at 1st it feels like hell & all we can think about is bd or sofa
but we can take care of our over all well being for ourselves and for those we care about and for neighbours who we become freinds w.

X's

hey, I just read your profile thingy.
I use to be on DS P&E abuse support group.
It's a great place to hang out and learn.
Hockymom post great infor on abuse and gives sound and useful advice & knowledge. their also other who are very helpful.
They help mend this ole heart, I was able to get a grip, morn & move on w my new wonderful life.

Excellent advice bmoney.

get on the right medication. take it. go to bed early. create new responsibilities that are constructive, important, and beneficial so that you are motivated to get up and get 'em done. Put enough effort in the day to realize fatigue in the evening so you get to sleep soundly.