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I recently lost 2 friends...One I was happy she died because she was very old and had dementia and Alzheimers too. I feel more at peace with her death, but my other friend died at 37.
Her death shocked me. At first I didn't know how to react so I kept my composure, but Tuesday I saw one of my friends that worked with her (I also worked with both at the Y) and just broke down right in front of her. She saw how upset I was and stayed with me and talked to me till she had to go and pick up her son.
Today was her funeral and I usually don't Cry, but this was different. I realized that her family lost a daughter, a sister, and a mother I just couldn't handle it. I cried and cried. No one ever really seen me cry until today, and I'm trying to cope.
My question is How? How do I get over her death and except that she's not coming back?
Her death shocked me. At first I didn't know how to react so I kept my composure, but Tuesday I saw one of my friends that worked with her (I also worked with both at the Y) and just broke down right in front of her. She saw how upset I was and stayed with me and talked to me till she had to go and pick up her son.
Today was her funeral and I usually don't Cry, but this was different. I realized that her family lost a daughter, a sister, and a mother I just couldn't handle it. I cried and cried. No one ever really seen me cry until today, and I'm trying to cope.
My question is How? How do I get over her death and except that she's not coming back?
I lost my mom and my dad when I was 19, barely graduated high school. Losing my parents at such a young age was a huge blow to me, both physically, and mentally. I coped with it the wrong way, getting in trouble with the law.
Besides counseling, you cope with time. I needed counseling, and I am sure it helped all those years ago. But what I found through personal experience is that it really just took time to get over it, took me 10 years, and its been 14 years ago.
After a loss, it tends to change you a bit, you will notice others around you who try to expedite your healing process and get you back on the horse before your ready, simply because they feel uncomfortable being around you cause they don't know what to say.
Do not let these people manipulate you. You have to deal with things in your own time. If you feel like grieving sweetheart, then you grieve. Do the things which come natural to you, the things that feel right.
When your ready to get back out there, you will! Don't let people shame you for the feelings that you have, cause the only person who knows you best is yourself. Again, it took me awhile to get over my parents death till I could reach a point where I felt comfortable being in society again.
If a friend in real life doesn't understand how you feel and pushes you too much, perhaps they are not your friend at all. A true friend is understanding and supportive. And of course I am here for you if you need me, just send me a message.
Don't you worry about a thing hun, you will get through this, I know you will, it just takes time. Feel free to go to a counselor if you wish, just know its not a requirement.
Huggs
Ashley
It takes time and nobody can tell you how long. Grief and grieving is a very personal and individual thing and should be honored and respected.
Maybe plant a tree in their honor or make a donation to a cause that was important to them to honor them. There are many things that you can do to honor the person that might help you to feel better during the grieving process.
In addition crying is very healthy. It releases toxins in the body and it is human to cry. It shows emotion and it is okay to cry. Talking about how you feel and maybe even start a journal is helpful too.
(((HUGS)))
I don't cope at all. My brother was 45 when he passed away 3 years ago. I did grief counseling and a grief group. I am still grieving as if it were yesterday.
But I have stopped beating myself up because I am still grieving 3 years later. He was my brother.....I helped raised him. I am just going to
morn until I am done and start to feel better.