Depression Support Group
Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.
In 2015 I was diognosed with depression and it got worse over the years. In the beginning of 2019 I started to feel better so I decided to get taken off of my antidepressants, but now my depression is much worse and my parents aren't helping. I have had 0 motivation for anything except for color guard which is my escape. I am constantly yelled at by my parents and I am constantly reminded of how much of a bad daughter I am. I am failing classes and I am struggling to keep my room clean to the point where it's going to take an entire day to clean it. Well now that I'm stuck in Coronavirus lockdown, I'm at home for 3 more weeks. I'm already behind in my classes (I'm a sophmore in highschool) and my parents are just yelling at me to clean and it's not making my situation better. I'm crying so much it's unreal and I can't go anywhere. I haven't talked to my best friend in days even though I've been trying. I need to talk to my mom about this but she is always so mad at me and I can't do anything or say anything without her getting mad. Besides she wouldn't believe me. I tried to tell her I wanted to kill myself last year and she started to yell at me and say "I just want attention". She refuses to believe anything is wrong with me and that I'm just lazy. She gets mad that I have a back issue and I can't clean for long periods of time. She's never happy with me. She's always yelling and I know that is a reason why my depression is so bad but she never let's me talk to her about it. What should I do?
Also you can contact the Suicide Prevention hotline via chat or call 24/7.
You don't have to be suicidal to call... you can just be going thru a hard time.
Sending you light and love.
I wish I could tell you how to "fix things".
If either of your parents are like me, they want to help you. Maybe they don't know how to approach the topic either.
Sending love and hugs.
Praying for a sound mind and a better relationship between you and your mom.
If you mother gets mad or interrupts, let her speak and do not interrupt, but after you finishes, you do not have to agree with her.
Being a parent is hard. Once your mother stops being angry, then you need to discuss constructive ways of going forward.
I had depression start at age 9 and being a little child I didn't know any different, as thought the way I felt was normal.... then the depression was diagnosed at 30 years old and I was devastated because it had become much worse.
Parents yelling is destructive as I've had this too. I sent both my parents emails and letters because it seemed the only way to get through to them - them sitting down and being quiet while reading through an email/letter is much more healthy than us trying to talk to them face-to-face. The reason is parents are critical and judgemental on their own kids, and it's the way their minds are wired. Some parents are more thoughtful than others and their kids have an easier time. I thought for many years "eldest daughter isn't good enough" because this is what they would constantly imply. Then years later we'd have fights about it. It's not about winning or fighting or making others feel guilty - it's about communicating. Parents have to "want" to listen. If you do write them a letter it's important to let them know that they shouldn't be shouting at you, and they obviously wouldn't shout at and judge a friend of theirs who is suffering. If the shouting damages your mental health further then let them know.
Also if you have a bad back, I recommend the Alexander Technique. I played piano a lot when I was a kid and hurt my back. I also had back pains from a car accident from age 16. It was doing Alexander Technique on my own (plus a few lessons with AT teachers) that made the difference. It takes time but works if practiced every day.
Before I go, it just occurred to me that if your parents are going to keep yelling, they are damaging themselves as well as you. Ask them is this what they want??? (Perhaps they just need a direct question like this to make them realise.) Take care and things will get better!