I have been in the same boat my friend. As soon as I graduated high school, I lost all my friends I had, which was only a few, and it seems I have lost all chances of making new friends. I have been without a true friend in at least 15 years. But that also includes relationships as well, cause I haven't had any of those either lol.

I have always believed its because I am not very solcial, you know, I don't go to parties, hate going to church, and I certainly don't like bars, a bunch of alcoholics are what you find there.

I really don't know what the answer is for us. I even have people on DS who I make friendships with, only to find out later on that they secretly covertly removed me as friend for no apparant reason.

I don't know, maybe were just not very lovable lol. Well, I hope you know that you have my support and friendship if you need it. Take care and have a good one. And Merry Christmas :)

Ashley

Dale Carnegie;s How to Win Friends and Influence People remains the best book on the subject. If you read and follow it, you will acquire a good number of friends and used the book cannot cost more than 5$

maybe you don't really want them? seriously. i am not talking about consciously here, there is lot of brain in our skulls but our consciousness hangs around a pretty small area, the rest is just working stuff out for us in the background and actually controls us, not the other way around. i too find that once in a while i'll get the urge for friends and that brings about feelings of loneliness and "why doesn't anyone like me?" kind of negative self-talk. but, when the urge isn't there and there is only depression, i actually don't have the energy for friends. being a friend is not a casual relationship, it requires constant maintenance and most of the time i don't have the energy for that maintenance so it really doesn't make sense to make friends.

let me be clear that i am talking about real life close friends here. the kind you go and do things together with. they require maintenance.

instead, you can come here and make a ton of friends and there is a shared understanding that people might decide to leave this place at any time and maybe not even return again. no strings attached, no maintenance requirements. the friendships are not a burden here but they can be in real life. maybe the rest of your brain knows this well and makes you act accordingly but isn't telling the conscious part?

Thanks all, a free copy of that book can be found at
http://hotblogtips.com/files/ebooks/classic-ebooks/win-friends-influence-people.pdf

hi i am the same way no friends just hi and bye i am all alone my boyfriend but i dont even want him anymore i would like to be friends but i dont know how to do it im mlonely but i would rather be alone then have someone tell they r my friend and the first chance bam they stab you in the back keep your head up

You could join a group in your area, like a group that has interests that you share. If you are religious, go to church (or synagogue or mosque, whatever the case may be). Within the church there are a host of groups you can join.
For instance, I am in my church's men's club. Doesn't really have requirements other than pay your $5 annual dues. But you are not required to go to Church to be in the group.
I am like you where I don't have enough friends. But the 2 that I do came from being in this Men's Club.

Interesting situation for me, I was not particularly popular but a family member was. So I got to see a lot about what makes people popular. and here it is.

Be a good listener, show genuine interest in other people, dress well, have fun parties, try to be upbeat, don't see personal slights, reach out periodically for updates and say hello,

It takes a fair amount of discipline, personally I tend to be a loner, but you choose what you want in life.