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I posted previously about my former employee wanting to come back. He wanted me to let his replacement go. I said I couldn't do that. That is not the problem now.
He went back to school in June. He is finishing up now scoring in the high90's. He was jjubilant about going to a job interview the next day. I was his only employer. He was fast racked for this interview for a large company. He commented that "he knew it wouldn't take long to get a job".The next day he wants his job back with me. He wants me "to be his strong side".
NOw Monday he is begging for his job back. He was crying. Got physically sick "from the stress".
I don't know what happened in this interview. I know he needs to be nudged out of the nest. To me he seems to be in crisis. He went from arrogant (sorry) to begging to come back. Sick and crying. He never gets sick! He worked for me for 8 years. Never took off sick. I know he lacks communication skills.
I am friends with his mom but we have never talked about him. She set up those boundaries. But something is very wrong! Should I talk to his mom ?
He went back to school in June. He is finishing up now scoring in the high90's. He was jjubilant about going to a job interview the next day. I was his only employer. He was fast racked for this interview for a large company. He commented that "he knew it wouldn't take long to get a job".The next day he wants his job back with me. He wants me "to be his strong side".
NOw Monday he is begging for his job back. He was crying. Got physically sick "from the stress".
I don't know what happened in this interview. I know he needs to be nudged out of the nest. To me he seems to be in crisis. He went from arrogant (sorry) to begging to come back. Sick and crying. He never gets sick! He worked for me for 8 years. Never took off sick. I know he lacks communication skills.
I am friends with his mom but we have never talked about him. She set up those boundaries. But something is very wrong! Should I talk to his mom ?
It doesn't mean he's in crisis but seems in stress as everyone deals with at some point in their life. Young people don't always see that life is between the black and white of their thinking and we are often in limbo and just have to learn to deal with that limbo until things stabilize. Things are almost never actually one way or the other decisively, we are just in the habit of thinking in terms of good vs. bad, best vs. worst, etc. when in reality the whole world falls in between there. Age straightens us up and he doesn't have those decades of experience to get him to not throwing up in the area of uncertainty.
When I was in my deepest depression a friend of mine and I worked out a 'secret phrase' to let him know I was very depressed or having a panic attack. So when I would call in a panic or severely depressed he would talk me through it for about 5 mins until the worse subsided. We would talk about the weather, the trees, and other non work things It really helped. I learned to talk myself through most of the crisis modes until i was able to get back to work.
As an employer you can set you own boundries on work place performance. Such as working on communication skills. Today's employer's sometimes forget that part of their job is to train their good employees to become better employees. A lot of times we think that they will just grow into better people on their own.
Also remember , that YOU are not responsible for someone ELSE. If you need him and your company can afford him and the issues that he comes with are acceptable, make a business decision.
Bottom line: Is he a good employee ?