Angel, depression is really talking for you today. The messages are so familiar, but are lies depression tells. Begin making a list of things you have done right, times you have been there rather than disappointing people, look at things you have accomplished that many have not. Depression skews and blocks these things, instead yelling how bad, disappointing, and failures we are. Please begin the battle. Depression hates action and hope. Healing and comforting hugs as you go through this day.

A colleague mentioned this sight that her daughter used in conversation so I tried.

It's funny how a stranger sending a reply helps one feel listened to and cared about. Thank you for that.

We can only keep trying

Hi Angel. Don't know what to do? Ask yourself what is making you sad? Reliable friends are important. Most people need someone to talk to. I know I do. Hurting yourself on the outside isn't helping the pain on the inside is it? What do you want to do that will be fulfilling and bring joy to your life? Depression is tough so you got to be tougher. Keep trying. You got some good advice to build on. Keep in touch.

How do I react when someone tells me I need to control my emotions and get help. I am getting help and trying my best to control my emotions but it hurts so much inside sometimes. I get so sad. How do i tell that person that then telling me to get control makes me feel like a failure because i am trying? I don't want to be this way?

God bless you Sweetie. The others' advice is great. Wonder if you keep a journal where you can write ANYTHING? Something to put in that journal are letters to people or things you feel upset at
Say whatever you want. Then put it away or discard so the other person and you don't get hurt. Writing letters like this frees a lot of pent up,emotions. I'll keep,you in my prayers. Am here if you need to talk.
God bless.

Thank you all. I hope to be helpful to you as you were to me.

Hi Angel. Give yourself a break!! When we are depressed, our thinking and perspectives get distorted and we end up believing the lies and al the negative self-talk in our heads. Something that has worked for me is to ask "Where's the evidence that I....? am a failure?... am a disappointment?..." I can get so caught up in the emotion of depression, that I surrender all my power to it, but if I challenge the emotion with logic or reason, then I'm able to recognize all of the self-talk as lies.

Also. oftentimes, the reason I'm feeling like a failure is because I compare myself to others. After all, society throws all of these impossible expectations on us and blasts us with comparisons 24hrs/day. I'm learning to say that it doesn't matter how I appear to others (which is why we compare ourselves), but just to say that in all things I am enough. TR

i feel sad now, because i can relate to what you feel. its like no matter what you do is right. wow what a tough road to hoe that one istook a while to understand that i wasn't hoeing the right road. i wasn't being the person i was suppose to be, what didnt help was attitude mine and theirs , they expected me to fail and so did i. no wonder it happened. what will set you free is confidence, that is no easy task if you are negitive. you need to start small do what you can do and do it well. slowly rebuild your self at one point you will realize you can do anything you want to do its just a matter of wanting it thats when you realize you love yourself now and have confidence in who you are and what you do. good luck, i know you can do it, if i can do it anyone can
annie

i feel sad now, because i can relate to what you feel. its like no matter what you do isn't right. wow what a tough road to hoe that one istook a while to understand that i wasn't hoeing the right road. i wasn't being the person i was suppose to be, what didnt help was attitude mine and theirs , they expected me to fail and so did i. no wonder it happened. what will set you free is confidence, that is no easy task if you are negitive. you need to start small do what you can do and do it well. slowly rebuild your self at one point you will realize you can do anything you want to do its just a matter of wanting it thats when you realize you love yourself now and have confidence in who you are and what you do. good luck, i know you can do it, if i can do it anyone can
annie

It is very true about comparing ourselves to others. Unfortunately we do it without thinking and often times we not only compare ourselves but we compare those we love with others without noticing.
Taking time for myself helps but doesn't come enough.
One day at a time. I made it through one and am starting today again, sad but not out. I'm so grateful for all the support and sending hugs and support to all you as well!

I am so happy that you have a counselor you can speak to. I remember the days of being so bombarded and overwhelmed with the negative thoughts and feelings, it was truly suffocating. Have you considered asking your husband to come to counseling with you? Maybe together you both can learn how to navigate through this as partners rather than combating one another? Has your husband personally expressed his frustration? I am asking, because sometimes in the depths of depression, we tend to believe those things without them actually being expressed, I know I did. I believe prayer is powerful and between prayer and help from a counselor, my husband and I have managed to wade through my sea of depression, so please know that I will be praying for you.