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No violations!!!
Sometimes the best thing to do is to make token efforts. Even if you only go outside to take a few breaths, that can be a victory.
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I hope you can find a ray of sunshine through all the bleakness.
However, based on the info presented, I do not think you are an abuser.
I think should a similar situation arise, you will probably handle it effectively, but differently. There was much to be learned from that incident.