Depression Support Group
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Dealing with loss of husband 10 yrs ago......boulder finally removed from my soul......was relatively content. This week.....wham....my son's wife passed unexpectedly and I am in throwback more watching him break....emotionally and,financially,.
Now I am feeling bad about his life and mine......am 78 and feel my best years have passed.......so thought I might find some hope here as I did when I joined w/a group .
It's especially difficult at the present time with the current situation my heart goes out to you all keep strong I know it's not easy but your an needs you by his side .
Please give your son my regards and best wishes I will be thinking of you all take care .
When things like this happen it can make all of us feel so vulnerable and
afraid. This is a great group. I don't come here daily but try to
check in often. Unfortunately for me, I usually check in when I'm feeling down.
Please check in often. Will send you a friend request.
I would further like to add to this comment...
As we all know "everything happens for a reason", Specially things that you have no control over. I don't think anyone knows how to deal with a broken heart when you lose your significant other. The only people who have an answer to this are the people who have gone through this pain themself and got out of it.!! You dealt with this scenario before and as you have mentioned you got out of it. I would like to suggest that you can really help your son during his tough times and help him get out of this situation even sooner than you did. It's only because you have travelled this path by yourself, you know when to keep moving when you feel down, you know how to deal with emotions when you feel stuck emotionally, you know when to turn left when to turn right when to stop and when to keep going straight. Nobody else knows this path only you do.! And now its time for you to take this torch and shine line on the right path and guide your kid to get out of this dark cave!
When I mentioned, "everything happens for a reason" I meant that whatever happened to you 10 years ago happened so that you can help your son out right now. I don't personally know your son or even you but I am pretty sure that he may not be emotionally as strong as you are, and might not be able to take care of himself by himself as you did. Maybe your presence itself is making him not lose total control of his life!
I understand that after you lost your daughter in law, seeing your son in pain is bringing the old sad memories in you back. These memories are nothing but monsters hiding within this cave that you were once stuck in.! These monsters will obviously give you the same sad, depressed and terrifying feeling because that's what they do!! But it's different for you now. Now you identify these monsters and the complete negative feeling that they give you. I am not saying to not feel or completely reject these negative feelings these monsters are giving you, I, in fact, want you to feel all those negative feelings completely. Feel the sadness feel the pain feel the anxiety and depression, accept all these feelings because once you accept it then you will have the strength to get out of it.! You did it before, and you can do it again too!
If you are seeing your son being stuck in this cave. You have to enter it with a torch and guide him out of it passing through all these monsters that you have once encountered and all the twist and turns that are present within this cave.
Apart from that positive energy from everyone on this website will always be with you including mine.! Thank you very much for sharing your life events with us. And I am wishing you a very best of luck..!