Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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blessed19 04/30/2012

I am currently dealing with depression. Its been off and on for almost four years now. Dealing with being a single mother. Trying to get away from an emotionally abusive relationship. Financial difficulties! The list goes on and on. All I want to do is lay in my bed and sleep all day! Im not happy at all ,but the good thing I can say is im not suicidal or anything. I want to live but I just want to feel better while living. I am overweight bigger than I have EVER been in my life. But because of the depression I am eating constanly! My sons father will not leave me alone I have been with him off and on for 8 years now! He wants to be with me but I am not going back and its really bothering him ,but he is alot of the reason I am feeling the way I do. He was horrible to me threatning, controlling, manipulative. all the classic signs of an abuser. I dont let my child around him. I feel so overwhelmed and feel like I am on the verge of a nervous break down. If it wasnt for my family I dont know where I would be. They are my rock. Ive seen a therapist but just havent had the time to go back. I basically just feel like im not living life to the fullest im just here. I work all week and on the weekends I just want to lay in my bed and eat. I cry for no reason. I am very angry! My freinds ask me to do things I always say no I dont feel like it. Every little things bothers me I live with my mom , two brothers and we are constantly fighting. Last night all my family was laughing and talking and I just wanted everyone to shut up and get away from me. All I want is peace and quiet. My son is very active but I never feel like going and running to play with him. I dont know what to do anymore I am just a nervous wreck. =(

WanderingVet 04/30/2012

As you surely realize, .. depression is a very serious issue. It sounds to me like you are overwhelmed .. with a good number of situations. It will take a lot of effort and time to get things leveled off, .. but it can be done.

First, you must get into action .. laying in bed is not going to fix anything .. though that is exactly what depression does.

You need to make a plan ... in no particular order:

Get son's Father to leave you alone. I don't know the details, but you really need to completely unload that weight .. even if it takes a restraining order.

Get on a weight loss plan. It is the SAME for everyone who is overweight .. PROPER diet and exercise.

Crying and getting angry will not solve anything. Only a good plan and action.

You need to live on your own .. you and your child. Mom deserves her 'privacy', and her grown children should move out and live their lives.

I want to tell you ... you are not doing anything 'wrong' ... you are doing THE BEST you can, .. I am sure. I am simply trying to get you into action. There are reasons you live with your Mom ... and I respect that. Thing is ... you and I both know it would be better if you lived on your own ... in peace. Just put it into your plan .. and work toward unloading that stress.

All these stressful circumstances are what has you in the condition you are in. Crying, anger, staying in bed, counseling, antidepressants .. are not going to do anything for you unless there is a plan and ACTION.

I am not saying it is easy or quick .. but you need to 'get to work' on changing things ... or nothing is going to change.

deleted_user 04/30/2012

First thing's first sweetheart, just breathe. I've been in those shoes that you're wearing, walked around in them for a while, so I hear what you're saying. Let's try to take baby steps towards making that list a little shorter. If need be, get a restraining order out on your husband. Try to do things for yourself, like write in a journal, take a bath, take a walk, anything just for you even it's only for a short time each day. I know it's difficult, but work on eating healthy, it really does help. Talk with your doctor about an anti-depressant that can help clear your mind, get you a little balance to help kick start things. Make time to go back the therapist. Just take each day at a time, slowly cross things off your list, but most importantly remember to breathe. This is your life. You're the captain.

Roxie

blessed19 04/30/2012

Thanks so much! Everything you guys said is so true. All I can do is pray about it and try my best to make things better for myself. I am going to make time to go see my therapist again.

mal66 04/30/2012

Maybe you need some alone time, some solitude - just to sort things out and formulate a plan in your mind of what to do going forward; you don't want to get in the rut of being depressed, it will take you downward..also exercising (even just walking) will help relieve stress and clear your head..stay strong!

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