Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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elizabeth_orien 07/05/2018

Over the past year I’ve noticed a lot of changes and it seems like I have no control over what is happening. My mental health has been on a steep decline and it’s only getting worse. Just the thought of talking to someone and expressing my emotions terrifies me I’ve tried to communicate about my feelings to multiple people and so far my responses were things like “get over yourself” “you’re weak” and “you have such a great life why are you talking like that”. After hearing these things from the people I trust the most it became extremely hard for me to talk about what I’m feeling. Almost every day I think maybe it would just be better if I didn’t exist at all. Even some of my most favorite things to do don’t make me happy or excite me like they used to. I’ve been getting nothing out of life and I really just want it to end. But then at the same time there’s a part of me still fighting and it makes me think maybe just maybe it will get better. Almost as soon as I start to think that it will get better I get beaten up again by feelings of worthless, sadness, not being able to impress anyone, or achieve my goals, being such a disappointment. From the time I wake up in the morning all I can do is just wait to go back to sleep again at night and I’m tired of it. I want someone to listen I’ve been crying out for help but no one is hearing me.

Cheese 07/05/2018

Hi. Hard stuff. I think that you need to try to like yourself, as you will most likely be with yourself for many years. I think you are very nice and seeing the worries and concerns that ypu have indicates that ypu are a very smart person also. Give yourself a break and try to turn off the worry if you can?

Livingtheabusefreelife 07/05/2018

I am feeling like you've had a lot bottled up, it seems like you don't feel like you have a voice. Who would say such dismissive things, and why? I just can't imagine. How can they tell you how you should feel about your life, I don't get it...Clearly, you are not weak. You've entitled your post Help, and I've learned it can take great strength and hope to ask for help.

I have a lot of your symptoms, it spoke to me when you said 'But then at the same time there’s a part of me still fighting and it makes me think maybe just maybe it will get better. Almost as soon as I start to think that it will get better I get beaten up again by feelings of worthlessness, sadness..."

I'm in that same riptide, and I just keep swimming (not to quote Dory).

How can we help you?

dixie_grl 07/05/2018

Sometimes the best person to talk to is someone who doesn’t know you. A professional can guide you to the tools you need to help get out of your funk. I think friends and family may not know what to say so they say something they think is helpful when it’s not.
You’re welcome to chat me up anytime. Maybe you can get the inner strength to not be afraid of a professional and see how they can help you.
I’d love to go to one but due to my medical situation I am unable to leave my house at the momemnt.
Im a willing ear.

Munchkin_Mags 07/05/2018

I Find it really hard to open up to people i feel that i am a burden to them my boyfriend has depression for a year now and i don't know what to do on how to help him and now he thinks i don't care. he says that he can talk to his friend better than he can with me because the one person he really wants to take to which is me he can't

Sage7 07/05/2018

Hey! Glad you reached out here! As I read your post, all I kept thinking was "Probably a part of the depression is because of the toxic people who are saying such things. You'd probably feel alot better if you had positive, uplifting, supportive people!" Sounds like you need a counselor who is objective and will listen and help you sort through things and set some goals for yourself. You are NOT worthless :) You are created for a purpose and are designed uniquely you. Each of us has gifts and talents, and yes-we all have struggles and shortcomings. As for things getting better-they WILL!!! So....what resources do you know of in your community? I'd suggest a local church might help and they're free! There's probably also a community health and counseling center that offers counseling. And of course, you can say anything you want here :) I live in the judgement free zone and since I've battled with similar struggles, I like to give encouragement instead of negative, toxic words like you're hearing from some people in your life. HUGS to you! Keep talking to us!

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