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MadSadandScared
MadSadandScared

Not so sure this is where I should be but there are no groups in the addiction category.  I'm at a loss as to how I handle my husbands drinking. We have been together for 10 yrs and on March 23rd 2015 he started drinking and had not stopped. Wn he drinks he is happy and wants to talk but I can't stand him wn he gets this way. I just want him to shutup and go to sleep. I can't stand to be touched by him he turns my stomach when he is drunk. Im sad and lonely and lately have been giving a lot of attention to a higher level coworkers. I know it is wrong but i just need more than what I am getting from hm.  


Your thoughts!           

tiredgirl
tiredgirl
I think you are going to be ok. I think you are using your co worker as an escape and it's ok. There's more to life for both you and your husband and that might very well mean separately. Don't be miserable.
indianvisa
indianvisa
why is he drinking, is he just an addict or is something else driving him to do it, send him to a rehab, cry in front of him, share this thought that you can't see him this way, he will atleast give it a thought and finally make him so busy that he doesn't have the time to do it, don't leave him at this time, we all know that he can't control it
Moo0290
Moo0290
Perhaps if there has been something that has triggered the drinking, so that he can get support?

But it may be something you need to think thoroughly on, whether you want to support each other through this or to find your own way separately. Either way, neither of you should just duck your heads and carry on as you are as it is the easier option. I know decisions out of the comfort zone are always hard, so I hope that you are able to figure things out and find your happiness.
HopeSeeker
HopeSeeker
Hi, I am new on here but am not new to many self-help groups mostly in person groups. You could try Alanon http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/ there are many meetings all over. And I personally know how helpful it can be. There is a Codepency group on here (just joined that one too) and that may also help. The main thing I have learned over the years (having dealt with many addicted loved ones) is that you can only truly help yourself and take the best care of yourself....something I still struggle with. The sad reality is that no matter how much we love someone they are the ones that will have to change themselves if and when they ever decide to. Meanwhile focus on yourself. I wish you the best!!
gregsbaby
gregsbaby
Hello there is an addiction group here it's called Family & Friends of Addicts. I'm in it.
Community LeaderThePepperMan
ThePepperMan
I want to second what HopeSeeker said! She nailed the two points very well: Alanon will help you understand his addiction and get you in touch with others in the same situation; no matter how hard we try, we can not control others. We can give them information and encouragement, but they will not act until they are ready to act.

Gentle hugs