Depression Support Group
Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.
hi i was diagnosed with clinical depression almost a year ago and got medication for it which usuraly helps but this week i relaps and have thought of nothing but killing myself. i dont realy want to die but sometimes i cant help the thoughts of that i should. i tryed to tell my boyfriend so he would keep an eye on me and make me feel better but all he did was complain about how he doesnt like that i have to be medicated and that he doesnt want to date anyone that could possibly take there life. i know he doesnt understand how i feel i barely inderstand it at most times but how do i tell him that his way of thinking is just making it worse? and that i have been suicidal without him getting mad and leaving me?
I have found that a lot of "non depressed" people really don't have a handle on what we mean when we say things about our depression. It would be really good if the people in our lives (BF, GF, Spouse, etc) got it, but since they often don't get it, we need to bend a bit of our terminology to their way of thinking.
Instead of telling your BF that you are suicidal, perhaps telling him that you are feeling overwhelmed by things, and would like him to be there if you need to vent about stuff that is driving you crazy. (Use the word of your choice.
Gentle hugs and again welcome!
I watch Dr. Phil a lot...and I know that people like us are not well enough to even be with anyone else....barely able to be with ourselves....
Fear of abandonment...is a huge thing with depression...but once that part is over and your alone and have time to adjust and learn who you are...you ultimately will be better off.
You even said....his feelings are making you feel worse....than...(easier said than done) believe me I know...but dump his feelings and work on yours :(