Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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sep780 01/29/2011

Trying to figure out how to just get over my issues ASAP & be the person who's NEVER negative & has no issues. Always does what's expected of her, etc. I know that means becoming somebody I'm not, but what's the big deal. Have to meet the expectations of others anyways. I can't just be me, cause all that does is get me into trouble.

deleted_user 01/29/2011

I don't think there IS a person out there who has no issues...if you'd like to work things out with yourself you need to take it step by step, because pretending you're alright never ever works.

sep780 01/30/2011

Have to pretend around family. Their version of support is yelling at me or saying "don't start that." Gave up on talking to them when I just need to talk to somebody.

Honestly kinda tired of trying to do things step-by-step. Don't even know what the steps are supposed to be.

ZAZAS 01/30/2011

I am sorry you don't get much support at home. My family is the same way. When I found DS I found a voice to my pain. Truth be told, it does not hurt near as much as when I was fighting alone. Stay strong.

europagrl 01/30/2011

trying to make me issues made me miserable...It is hard,long work.And never ending.You r beautiful even with some issues.:-)

koolman 01/30/2011

EVERYONE has issues, things that sadden us and piss us off. It's about tackling whatever particular issue is relevant at any given time.

Can you start by talking about ONE issue that is the priority right now and work from there?

Summerwind81 01/30/2011

That person does not exist on this earth. No way. It's not possible.

That sucks that your family expects you to be so "perfect"...do they not have any problems, ever?

You say you don't know what the steps are supposed to be...well, unless you're working on a 12-step program, you get to make up the steps. Whatever feels easiest for you, work on that.

I would think that shaking off that "I must be perfect" thing would be an amazing first step.

Hugs and luck to ya

deleted_user 01/30/2011

I have many issues too....Too many to list...BIG (((((HUGS)))))

beachside 01/30/2011

Hello sep

" We are all Perfectly Imperfect."

This is our honor to ourself and to life. We all need to embrace our unique differences and imperfections.

(((((((((Hugs))))))))))

heretic 01/30/2011

Seems like a hella amount of pressure you are putting yourself under. I could never deal with the stress of pretending I am not exactly who I am. Why would you want to please people who won't let you be who you are? So what if others don't like it - that's THEIR problem, right? How can you "get in trouble" for being who you are? If someone doesn't like what you are doing why would it matter? If they say something to you about it, remind them it's not their business. I think it would take less energy and be more beneficial in the long run if you put your mind to Being Yourself. And don't let anyone take that away from you.

deleted_user 01/30/2011

I am so sorry you are struggling. I know those feelings of doing things and being a certain way to please others........its soooo hard and it doenst work for very long. I wish i had something helpful to say but i dont because im struggling through similar issue but i will pray for you to have strength during thes hard battles. stay strong and keep trying everyday. you are a wonderful person

sep780 02/01/2011

Thanks guys & heretic how did you know that I tend to get in trouble?

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