Most men are not sensitive to women's emotions, because they are logical and practical creatures. A lot of men think that showing emotions, is a sign of weakness. I think your husband meant well, because he loves you and is concerned about your health. And to see you in this way, made him feel helpless.

Maybe the new meds is too strong for your body, or it is inter-acting negatively with your other medication. Getting a second opinion could be a good thing. Maybe it will help if you give your hubby a big hug, and tell him that you realize how concerned he is about your health. Thinking of you, my friend!

Big hugs to you!

I have had that same argument over and over and over. Some days I just look and feel that way. Ken also accusing me on being on dope! Where the hell would I get it, I am housebound and only see him and my daughter. The meds that I take are non narcotic. Well, except the pain medicine that I take, but he takes the same thing due to pain. I think it is not fair of him to fight with me and then take it himself. What is that word? Hypocrite! Yes, that is it.

I put up with the same thing from my wife.
I think it is fear. Her mom was an alcoholic while raising her.
She just goes nuts and attacks anything that looks like addiction or drug abuse. I believe her "security" feels threatened by it...because she had to grow up with insecurity as a child, all that madness and non dependability. I think people that really lash out about it are really afraid of the whole dynamic. This came from someone or something in their past.
Hope you feel better soon, no one should have to get attacked while they are adjusting to new meds. Or any other time for that matter.

I agree with the others your husband's behavior may stem from fear.

It's still wrong of him to call you stupid. You don't deserve to be called names and belittled.
I hope you can tell him how it makes you feel when he says hurtful things like that.

Try and reassure your husband that if you do not adjust to this new medicine to a level where you are functioning and side effects are not noticeable by others then you will stop taking it and try something else.
You don't need to be on medications if they make you act like that.
You maybe sensitive to the med.
I hope you feel better soon and your husband becomes more sensitive to your needs and be there for you. Maybe ask for the hug. I know that's not the same as him spontaneously doing it but sometimes people just don't think or know and need things to be spelled out to them.

Who the hell is not dopey when they have the flu? I'm just saying lol.

He should not belittle you.

I agree with Levicah

try writing a letter to your husband, a lot of times its easier to get thing out on paper, then in the heat of the moment. make it short no more then 3 paragraphs.

I agree with everything everyone else has said. Also, others will often take out their own pain (physical, emotional, mental, etc.) on others for practically no reason. Maybe he's stressed and/or having problems at the moment. It could also be that he feels helpless as to whether he can do anything about the way you are feeling at the moment. When men (and women too) are helpless, they often can easily get angry and snap at people.

Of course you're going to feel bad when you have the flu! And the combination of a new medication could definitely affect you even more as well! You have nothing to feel bad about! But it often still hurts even though we realize we have been unjustly treated badly......

By the way, you might get used to the klonopin after you take it for awhile. If not, call your doctor and talk to them about it.

HUGS I hope you feel better!

Get your husband to go to the psychiatrist with you and have the p-doc discuss how medicines of the psychiatric sort make one sleepy.

Also, there could be hormonal issues. When one is in one's late 20's, there is normally grad school, or prepping for parenting or career concerns at work. I know that where I work the 25-30 crowd is kept busy. In my department we have Public Information Officers and they commute and are held accountable and are yelled at, so it is difficult being in your late 20's because it is a time of great transition. And this is for anyone, female or male.

Your husband should be understanding of your condidtion and the fact that career, grad school or children is a major challenge in young adulthood.

No one deserves to have someone belittle them. Maybe your hubby needs some counseling to help him understand what you are going through? It sounds like he is frustrated because you aren't able to work right now. Maybe he is worried about your finances?

As for the klonopin maybe you could ask your doctor if you should start out on a smaller dose until your body adjusts? But ask your doctor before changing the strength.

I wish you well.

I had my apt wit her today she saidshe wouldsee how I was doing in a month and if notchange the med or the dosage. hubby is still mad

Maybe you could invite him in for a couple minutes of your next Dr appt and have your Dr. explain things to him and answer his fears and questions? A lot of guys want to be so "logical" and will take a practical answer from an "expert" when they won't listen to you.

Co Dependent, that's it, not hypocrite. That is the word I was looking for. Do you husband's parent have a history of addiction? As a child, co dependents had no control and now try to control EVERYTHING!, If he won't read it, read it yourself and find out what you are up against.

I have klonapin; I take it at night.

I tend to get serious side effects from new meds as well. It normally takes me a good 4-6 weeks before I can tell how the medication is really working for me. Good luck