Depression Support Group
Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.
How to deal with problems, my story. I felt bad and had a tough time getting up Tuesday. Got through the day and Wednesday became a better day. I got good news at my job, then better news, then excellent news. Had a big meeting on Thursday, and it turned out very very bad, things fell apart. I feel better though and here are my thoughts.
1. Do the best you can. Try not to get too caught up in things you can't control. Look at Steve Jobs, he was dying, but worked on new products and his company. He could not control his cancer; he could control how he worked and what he did.
2. Place things in context After my work disaster, I had pledged to help a church that had been robbed in an inner city, and did that. I saw much povertiy, this was a crime-ridden area, and it placed my problems in context. My family is healthy.
3. Don't focus on what could have been Efficiency means thinking about what you have to do and not focusing on past problems, failiures, personal deficiencies, work hard, do your best with what you have.
4. You can control about 60% of life and 40% you can't. Work on what you can deal with; try to improve but don't be too hard on yourself.
1. Do the best you can. Try not to get too caught up in things you can't control. Look at Steve Jobs, he was dying, but worked on new products and his company. He could not control his cancer; he could control how he worked and what he did.
2. Place things in context After my work disaster, I had pledged to help a church that had been robbed in an inner city, and did that. I saw much povertiy, this was a crime-ridden area, and it placed my problems in context. My family is healthy.
3. Don't focus on what could have been Efficiency means thinking about what you have to do and not focusing on past problems, failiures, personal deficiencies, work hard, do your best with what you have.
4. You can control about 60% of life and 40% you can't. Work on what you can deal with; try to improve but don't be too hard on yourself.
I'll add a few more: Dodge, then burn. When life throws a curve ball, focus mental energy on the next, new, positive thing you want to produce or create.
Aggressively focusing the mind on the positive forges a kind of zen, that can shrug problems off and keep working on something. Focus on and chase the light, not the dark.
I agree on Steve Jobs, and love how he stayed focused on his core brilliance to the end, not on "woe is me, I have terminal cancer, I shouldn't have smoked" or whatever. He's an inspiration, and a testament to realizing that the past is done, and focusing on the future, and leaving some kind of legacy when we're gone, a legacy of brilliance, innovation, love and positive thinking.
While it's important to vent and stew in misery sometimes, instead of spending all your time here, in a support group, befriend people at work and talk excitedly about some new technology, cause or something you're passionate about! It helps!
Sometimes depression is simply a lack of new ideas or something positive to say.