Hey fatalerror,

Sorry you're going through this, break-ups suck. I just went through one myself. For now, all you can really do is be patient and try to not dwell on how lonely you feel without her.

How do you know she wants you back? There is a difference between being sad at the end of something and wanting it back.

She keeps begging me to give her another chance, saying she can make things right. When it's not even her she has fulfilled everything that matters. It's me not being able to fulfill my part. She says she doesn't care but I told her no. She isn't too sad anymore about us just really wants me back. She if there was even a chance needs to go about it all differently though :P

Sorry to hear about this. But I have to ask you, do you have to cut her off completely? You just said that you want someone to cuddle, someone to talk to. Can't you guys come to an agreement where you guys are really good friends but not sweethearts? I think you guys needs to sit down with each other and talk about this, honesty and being open is the best way to go.

Tell her your feelings and what you want to get out of the relationship. Let her know that you don't want the romantic aspect of it, nor the sex. You just want a very close friend, somebody you can trust, somebody you can count on, somebody who can be there for you.

And if she can't do that, then you will know and can move on. But until then, your going to hate yourself down the road if you didn't even try and figure out if she would be willing. Thats my two cents. Oh and seeing a therapist wouldn't be a bad idea either.

Ashley

I'm really not good at relationship advice but I will say that I am sorry you are having to go through this. It takes a lot of strength and self-awareness to be able to say that you aren't fulfilling your end of things and therefore need to break it off. Give yourself some credit for that. Some people would just let things go on indefinitely and not care if the other person doesn't care about the issues that are going on.

That's how breaking up with someone you care about usually goes. First it sucks...but then it will suck a little less. Hang in there. If you believe it was for the best, there is nothing to regret. Just try and remember the good times and learn from the mistakes.

You'll be okay.

Ashely: I do have a therapist :) and it's hard to be cuddle buddies when you live 300 miles away D: Not that you knew either of those, but you do now ;) lol

I know I'll be alright and stuff, but it's just difficult I'm that kinda person who likes a lot of affection and it'll be the death of me and being so desperate is gonna be a turn-off for girls and I don't blame them :(

I don't know if I am understanding why you brok up with her Is it posible that the depreshion has eney thing to do with your breaking up with her did you feel she didn't understand you .....because if that was a problem people who haven't gone through depreshion realy have no clue what we go through you can tell them all you want they won't get it with my husband and we have been together for 30 years I had to take him in to see my phicitrist to get a little educated on depreshion and for my doctor to explain just what he needed to do to help instead of making it worse and just so he could understand why I was doing some of the things I was doing ...........so I am woundering if she just needed to be educated on depreshion like my husband .........I was just thinking about that and I didn't want you to louse out on love if it was somthing like that especualy since you say she wants you back ...............I do hope you feel better and hang in there I will keep you in my prayers ....god bless

No she knows all about depression has it herself and she has some pretty severe anxiety. She's almost as bad as me kinda. don't know how but people have different levels they can withstand and hers must be much weaker then mine is all.