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Heidiclark
Heidiclark
Tonight I decided I am going to take my own advice and start talking more about what''s going on with me. Right now I am doing okay. My new med that I have been taking for a few months now seems to be helping a little bit which is better than it's been for a very long time. Today I actually got some cleaning done which has been really hard for me, along with everything else. Also got to spend most of the weekend with my son, Josh, who is living with the in laws right now, getting better care from them than he was getting here at home (yes, due to my depression and having a hard time with everything including basic functioning). I saw my mom today and she is a real trip. She is the definition of drama queen. She is very controlling and manipulative but she is still my mom and wants to see both Josh and myself, although she is really starting to annoy Josh. Wow, it feels good to just "Check in" and let people know what's going on. I spent so many years battling paranoia as well as depression that I could not open up to anyone about anything. Even my husband felt like a stranger to me although he is always trying to help me. So that's where I am right now. I hope I can keep talking and sharing----it's what I tell everyone else to do, after all.
Community LeaderWanderingVet
WanderingVet
Sounds like you have made some great gains. Delighted you are feeling better ... keep doing what works for you.
allgoodman
allgoodman
Thank you so much for this post. I hope that it will also help other people to open up more.

Please keep sharing here. We'd like to stay updated on how you're doing.

What other types of sharing have you done? Are you open with your family? (That takes time and is still difficult for me, but it can help.)

Also, I've had luck with keeping a journal and with talking on here, both sharing my own feelings and responding to other people's posts.
Community LeaderThePepperMan
ThePepperMan
I'm a member in the caring for parents group. Although it is aimed at people who are caregivers for parents, there is one gem that we all work on over and over.

Setting limits!

We set limits for our parents; limits that have consequences WE can control.

Have you considered setting limits for your mother? If she is a drama queen, then odds are that adds a HUGE amount of stress in your life.
LuvMyTitans
LuvMyTitans
Hey sweetie.
I'm really glad you posted and you are going to continue to share more with us about how you're doing and how you're feeling. I'm really glad the med seems to be helping. Yay! I'm sorry your mom is such a drama queen and manipulative. I hope you can avoid her drama and do your best to not let her manipulate you. Stay strong! I'm really proud of you! Give Super Josh a hug for me :)

Love and big hugs xoxo

LMT
gramybear
gramybear
I know the word "manipulative" very well. My mother lived with me for 5 years and I was her care giver for over a year. Unfortunately, even with the support of many in the Caring for Parents group., I almost learned too late to set boundaries. I waited so long that I got myself very physically ill. I am so glad you are opening up and please continue to share and set boundaries as The Pepperman suggested. Please don't wait like I did. My mother had no problem admitting she was a snob and she too was a drama queen. Hugs GB
Heidiclark
Heidiclark
Thanks everyone. My internet is down right now and I dont really want to try to respond using the phone. Will try to write more tomorrow. Thanks again.
Heidiclark
Heidiclark
Pepperman and Grammybear.... Yes I need to set limits with her, but its hard as I am always afraid she is going to explode and get angry, but I guess I have to be ready for that too. I did tell her yesterday that she was too loud and that what she was doing was not funny. She was whispering really loudly after we had been told by my sister in law to be more quiet as my niece was studying.

Also, yes I do share how I'm doing with my husband and I meet twice a week with a woman from our church. And journaling sounds like a good idea. Thanks.
muskrattiger
muskrattiger
I am a great one to be telling everyone they need to talk ...and like you untill reasently have not been ..doing that to my friends in here ..so I am now doing it in my jurnal ....and finaly told my family ........but had to .........I am very proud of the shairing you have been able to decide to do ..it is a very good thing ...for you ....your mother has to know that if she wants to see you than she has to put the drama away while she is with you ..and ..talk to you with respect ..or she can leave or you will leave ....and if she is doing it to your son ...I don't know how old your son is ..but there comes a time when they can make up there owen dishions on seeing ..family that is toxic ....so just somthing to think about ......it does feel good to talk and conect ...I keep you in my prayers always ....take good care of the two of you ....God bless
Heidiclark
Heidiclark
Musk, you are the one who inspired me to share. More in a bit.
Heidiclark
Heidiclark
Sorry, I wanted to post more but internet was down and it was just too hard to type on my husband's phone so I waited until we got our bill paid. LIke I said I was inspired by others who also gave the advice of reaching out for help but did not do it themselves. Also looking for a support group where I can share my struggles with my son Josh. I have checked in to the parenting teens groups here at DS but most of the posts were about kids who were in so much trouble and were not listening to the parents at all which is not what I am dealing with. Josh is good kid but he has Aspergers and ADHD which present special challenges. I do belong to the Aspergers group which would probably be helpful at this time but I would also like to hear from parents of "normal" teens.
gramybear
gramybear
I could write a book about my two boys while they were growing up!! They were like night and day. The good and the evil... :-)... Seriously though, I am always available to talk any time you would like. I helped raise a granddaughter who had ADHD, I also think my youngest suffered from it and as I said, I've been there and have gone through a lot with both of them, just different scenarios! Hugs GB