We have conditioned ourselves to negativity. It is easier to stay that way because to change it takes a lot of work (something we lack energy to do). And change can be a scary thing even though it is positive. This is something I am working on myself. Trying to be more positive, grateful.

short answer...because it's always the cons that come back and bite you in the ass....

I recently checked out some books from the library. The best one was Change your brain, change your life. I actually tried what it suggested and that was to quit negative self talk. When you tell yourself over and over, "I'm depressed", you really feel that way. I started to catch myself thinking that way and started to tell myself, "I'm happy"(even thogh I didn't feel happy) and after 2 days of that I felt much better! It's been about 2 weeks now and I feel like I'm not depressed anymore! The new book The Secret helped me also.

I also think it doesn't help that we label ourselves in a negative fashion either.

It goes hand in hand with mental illness, that is why Cognitive Behavior Therapy is the big therapy for so many MI.

It teaches you to let the illness go it's course and you see and act through it. Like being stuck on a river raft. Instead of being towed into the river rapids it teaches you to navigate to the best spot.

If that doesn't make a bit of sense, well that is OK too. It makes no sense to me either.

Its part of the disease. Depression causes you to see everything negative. I was always a positive person but since this illness has gotten a hold of me I now see everything from a pecemisstic side. Even in little things....if someone says "goodbye" i read into how they said it and always find some negativity in it.

Because when your sinking, all you notice is the water filling up and not the life raft tied to the side of the boat.

just a thought.

Wow, great analogy!

its a gift

But what do you do when changing your self talk to positive just pisses you off more??

You laugh the crazy laugh and sit down remove your shoes and socks and rubb your feet.

Dont take life to serious...you'll never get out alive.

To stay with the same tread here, I have always told myself and my kids when one of us messed up big time..... Learn from how you spilled the milk, clean up your mess then pour yourself another glass

when u think positively and things don't go the way u thought, u get disappointed. When u think negatively, u can't be disappointed because anything that happens is probably gonna be better than what u thought. I hope that made some kind of sense...hahaha

I figure I got some wires crossed. I have been considering letting mechanic look under the hood.