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Giving Up

usmcgf0220
usmcgf0220

I am so ready to give up. I am losing my best friend and my boyfriend is away at boot camp and my depression keeps getting worse every night I have gotten at most 4 hours of sleep for the past 4 days. I am tempted to self harm again but I am trying not to and I know people are gonna say think about when you boyfriend comes back well nothing guarrantees that he will come back and still love me and I am scared he is happy that he left me. In his letters he says "I love you" but the past few he hasn't said he misses me and that "I love you" is as simple as that we haven't seen each other in over a month and all I got is one I love you per letter and no I miss you anymore. I don't what to think and I can't hang on anymore. 

billy1
billy1
when you write him back tell him you miss him tell him your waiting for him to get back home .you never he might be thinking the same about you might be saying to himself does she miss me
PeteMason
PeteMason
Giving up isn't an option, I tried that once, failed dismally and, my life has been great since, it proved to be the most important turning point in my life.

I sense that your boyfriend's love of you is important and, it would be far more so than your own love of you perhaps?

Are you self-respectful, are you as kind to yourself as you are to your bf and others?

Do you judge yourself harshly, are you your own worst critic and, if so, who taught you to be?

Where is your true beauty found, on the inside, or on the outside?
usmcgf0220
usmcgf0220
He does love me more than I love myself. I am extremely hard on myself but it is because of how I was raised. My stepmother and moms ex boyfriend of 10 years always degraded me and my stepmother still does. I don't see any true beauty for me.
nightingale77
nightingale77
Sometimes the love we have for ourselves are too often projected on people around us. If you are hard on yourself or you can't seem to find a reason to love yourself, you might find it hard to believe people around actually love you. If that makes sense to you. For years, I was convinced that I was a condemned case, not worthy of love and respect from the people around me. I felt that I had to work hard to earn that love or respect.

It took me a while to realise one day when. I woke up I don't need to do that. I'm a christian so from that perspective it helps me a lot. I'm already accepted and loved by God. I don't need to impress God to love me, He already did. So if God who is sovereign and powerful loves me, I don't need to prove myself to anyone. I'm not sure if you are a believer, you may or may not buy what I have just said. But I want you to know there is hope in your situation. There is hope in your recovery. Please know that you are loved and I hope you can try to live loved. Take care, praying for you. God Bless!
NYerinWI
NYerinWI
Something to keep in mind too, BMT (Basic Military Training) is very grueling and involved, especially the USMC. I have a good friend from HS that is a former instructor at Parris Island. Don't think of it as he doesn't love you. They are putting him through the ringer physically mentally emotionally. I know 3 words should be put into a letter easily but hes got a million things going on at once. Try not to take it personally even though its very difficult.

Good luck to you both, and I was raised in an Air Force Family so I am no stranger to the military way of life.