Yes absolutely, I have lived a long road and its taken a long time for me to learn to stop doing that. Often times when I make a mistake, I hate on myself for it, especially if the mistake effects someone else's thoughts of me. However, I have to remind myself to not give a shit what other people think of me, take this as a lesson that I made a mistake, and move on.

But you are right, its not as easy for me to move on as it is for other's. I always rehash my ability to hate myself, but then I remind myself that everything is going to be ok. For example, my latest mistake was racking up 3600 dollars in credit card debt. In order to fix my mistake, I had to open up a low interest bank loan, to pay off the credit card debt.

See, the credit card agency was charging me 19% interest, crazy right! So by doing some debt consolidation, I was able to secure a low 9.6% interest loan with my bank. By the time I pay the bank loan off I will probably be charged no more then 100 dollars worth of interest total.

Where as if I stayed making payments to my credit, I would have owned 2000 dollars worth of interest by the time it was all over! But after I stopped hating on myself, I reminded myself, look, I made a mistake, the world isn't going to end because of it, lets just fix the mistake I made, and move on.

Yes I do it too. When I first started at my current job March last year, I remember making a minor mistake. I can't even remember what it was. But my mind took over berating me thinking "They made a mistake when they hired me. I'll find a way to fuck this up too". I cried in the bathroom but when the initial emotion passed I thought, that's wrong and silly. I'm well liked and a diligent worker who always jumps in to help my coworkers. Of course I'm going to make mistakes. I'm new. And in 10 years I will still make mistakes because I'm human.

I'm getting better at not tearing myself down but it takes work to rewrite the code your brain is used to.

Something that helps me is to ask myself " would you say this things to your best friend if she made the same mistake?" The answer is always no. That helps me to cut it off before I spiral too far.

having made major life mistakes like drugs and alcohol I know the feeling....hugs bill

I think this is pretty standard for those of us who have anxiety. A mistake makes a terrible feeling inside us. Terrible awful feeling. And we judge it very harshly.

I have had to learn, and I have managed to learn, to undo a lifetime's teaching and training inside myself, and let errors go. The more confident I have felt at work, the more able to let go I have become. The less insecure, the more prepared to make errors.

People make errors all day long. It's normal.

You know what brings me anxiety? Two things! Whenever I loose something important, I can't stop until I find what I've lossed and I appear to be in a bit of a panic running around.

Second, when I can hit delete on a bad memory. Because I have OCD, bad memories rehash in my brain from time to time, I cringe heavily when I think of them. I know many on here are just like that too.

I made a mistake, however I am NOT a mistake!

Nope, I accept that I am human and will make mistakes.

I don't sweat the little stuff, I just try to prioritize and sweat the BIG stuff, like falling in love or lust with the wrong woman for the wrong reasons, 'cuz she looks good, letting my Johnson do the thinking and talking for me, selling my soul to a job that is beneath my human dignity just to make a few bucks, or anything else that majorly undermines whatever honor, integrity and sense of morality I may have.

As far as forgetting to do the laundry or take out the garbage today, nope, I don't have that problem, I just accept that I was distracted or doing those things wasn't that important to me.

Pretty much, violating anything in the Ten Commandments are the only mistakes I'd concern myself with. Smaller mistakes, like forgetfulness, are frivolous.

I USED 2 B LIKE THIS.
NOW AT THE AGE OF 64 I HAVE GOTTEN OVER MY FALSE GUILT TRIPS SOMEWHAT............................LOLOLOLOL
GBU
DRENA B
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