Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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Future Relationships??????????

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I have been separated for over a year, soon to be divorced. My wife left me because she could not deal with my depression. I understand, she is a happy person and it was exhausting for her to live with me. She was becoming a person she was not meant to be. I suppose that is why they have support groups for family members.

That being said, is it fair for me to date and possibly have a relationship knowing where it will lead? I will either have to be honest up front or my depression will show its ugly self at some point. Either way I feel the relationship will be doomed and I am not sure it is fair to waste someone else's time. But I do not want to spend the rest of my life alone. I need someone in my life. I am new here, maybe this has been brought up before.

Any thoughts would be appreciated.

Matt
Community LeaderWanderingVet
WanderingVet
I (finally) refused to accept depression. It took more than that, of course, .. proper medication, ... some maturation, ... some heavy 'thinking'. I took the 'don't go like that' approach ... and managed to chase it (depression) away.

After all, everything is a state of mind ...
Heidiclark
Heidiclark
I don't think you should have to be alone just because you have depression. I have had severe depression for 23 years and much husband stays with me and wants to be with me. We have been together 18 years and it's clear that my illness really doesn't affect him that much. The same thing could happen to you if you find the right person.
mjones0608
mjones0608
I left and divorced my ex-husband because I fell out of love with him. He had a major anger problem. He would always insult me which only made my depression worse. I think my schizophrenia (hearing voices) only made things worse. Those voices would tell me that I couldn't handle being with him anymore. My depression has always gotten the best of me. I have had it for at least 15 years or more and i'm only 32.

I am not sure about having another man in my life. I am afraid of being judged about my health issues. I am scared what will happen once he find out I hear voices and am sad all the time.