Today I had a sort of argument with my friend. I don't know how it started. I'm 170ish pounds. I'm 18 (female) by the way. I gain and lose weight very easily and quicky. I was explaining that I was frustrated because I had gained 2 pounds yesterday. I don't eat much anymore. This past week I ate 3 times a day. But I decided this morning that it was too much. He then explained oh that's nothing and I then said it's a lot to me. And he was asking why and I said well because fat is bad. It's bad to look that way. Everyone thinks so. Why else would there be gyms everywhere and all this diet stuff in stores and on tv? Cuz people don't like to look that way. And then he had said well that's a very narrow minded self esteem issue. And I then became frustrated. I explained that people don't like people that look that way. So he then said but you should live by what you like and what you're comfortable with. And then I explained that I just want people to like me. I have a wonderful personality everyone says that. But still for some reason they just don't want to be my friend. I have to be and do and look like what everyone else likes. You know all I want is friends. Then he said You liking you is the most important thing!!! It's irrelevant if I like my self. I'll like myself when other people like me. Well until I have friends I'm just going to have to assume something is wrong with me and I'm going to have to change everything. He then said I simply think it's a very large self esteem issue. And I became more frustrated. I then said no. I disagree. I think I'm great. I'm just apparently not good enough for anyone. Now I don't want to talk about it anymore. Then he had said okay.
I really don't think he's right. I don't have a problem with myself. Everyone else does.