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Friend19
Friend19
Let say you had this friend for whom you've known for 4 years...You two are very close and used to do everything together. Now she is getting married and for over a year keeps telling you that you are definitely invited...Duh. Then you find out a month before the wedding you are not invited. And no, it's not a close family thing because she has people going she hasn't even known a year.You still have never met this finance of hers...and she may be preggers and hiding it from you. How would this make you feel?

Maybe I shouldn't feel hurt by this...But it's definitely gotten to me and I feel shoved away. Please give me advice so I don't let my paranoia destroy this friendship.

HUGS
Chanel22
Chanel22
I would call her and be like what the hell? What's up? Heard about the wedding.. Sounds strange to me.. really strange..

To be totally honest I would probably just phase this person out..
winny
winny
id feel very hurt. id also ask her outright about it to save anger brewing....
if u dont ask the resentment will build in u and ruin the friendship anyway so u have nothing to lose. good luck
deleted_user
deleted_user
I know if my best friend did this to me I would be hurt. But I would also try and talk to her about it. Be honest about how you feel, and if she continues to shut you out, then she isn't the friend that you used to have.
deleted_user
deleted_user
i would feel like shit! and i would definitly ask her whats wrong! BIG HUGS hun
deleted_user
deleted_user
Awww love :( You have every right to be hurt by this. Are you going to confront her?

(((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm famous for wanting to give people the benefit of a doubt when they don't necessarily deserve it, but if it were me, I'd probably ask if it was an oversight that you never recieved an invitation, or if she's needing to limit the number of invitations she extends. If it was a mistake, cool. If it wasn't a mistake, that would pretty much be the last that "friend" would ever hear from me.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'd feel hurt and want to know what's up too. But don't assume it's any reflection on you. Maybe her fiance is jealous? Maybe there is some friend or family member who has had some problem with you and asked her not to invite you. Who knows, could be anything. Find out before you let it eat away at you.

And even if she does have some problem with you, don't let it make you feel you aren't a worthy person. People can have differences or not like each other, but no one gets to decide your worth, not even you. Your spirit is part of God and as that, is pure love, no matter what you do wrong or right or who you get along with. Anyway, that's my feeling.