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MarahIdellCatLuvr
MarahIdellCatLuvr

It’s possoble that I’m searching for people to tell me I’m ok because I don’t know my worth. 


I know I don’t know my worth.


I know I’m looking for others to tell me I’m ok.


But when they say really empowering things, I don’t believe them. When someone says anything critical of me, I crumble.


Why am I only able to own the negative?


 I have made a lot of huge and very positive changes. I’m reading a book and doing exercises to work on self esteem.


What do you think about distorted thinking and changing your feelings? Some distorted thinking needs to change. I’m not an expletive when I spill something. I’d only call myself such a thing, no one else. I know that’s not logical. I simply made a mistake. I’m being more realistic and giving myself more grace in a lot of ways.


Some things that sound like black and white thinking or jumping to conclusions, really sound like truth to me. If there’s a pattern, something needs to change before I’ll change my thoughts. Is that some kind of fallacy that’s keeping me depressed?


Changing my feelings sounds stupid and overwhelming but the chapter doesn’t discuss feelings as much as it discusses how we view and approach them. There are healthy feelings and unhealthy feelings - like when we are angry we can either examine our own hearts and ask what our part was or we can insist we’ve done nothing wrong and everything was the other persons fault. That makes sense. Lots of great info like that. But I haven’t done a lot of unhealthy feeling and I’m still insanely depressed. I get that it’s normal right now but I’m wondering if it’s ever going to change....


Osheana
Osheana
Yes it will change as you self nurture and self partner, Yes it is
all too common for us to become co dependent to people and situations
to reaffirm our validity,But there is no point in this as well because as you stated
"But when they say really empowering things, I don’t believe them. When someone says anything critical of me, I crumble."When you refuse to accept validation to yourself or even from anyone- it is a form of abandoning self. To
find the origin of this- you have to do the work which you stated you are and
if counseling is a thought in your mind surely Go for it"
You deserve to be able to self love and receive love from others.
Also an effective way to release forms of mental abandon is through Quantum Healing you can google this.It teaches you how to form a healthy
relationship with yourself (self-partnering) and a believable life-long lasting
profound relationship with yourself, Hugs and warm wishes on your journey.
AnnieToman
AnnieToman
your making progress i see it in what you say. your doing the right thing, introspection is a very healthy thing to do, understanding your self and discovering the wrong way of thing is a great way to correcting what we need to correct. but some times we get a little hard on ourselves and question our worth, can you honestly say your worth less then any other person you know? we all have worth no need to question that, just question the thinking that is behind that belief. you seem like a very intelligent person, time to look for ways of using that to correct the thinking that has held you back. time to find what is good about your self and use that thinking to heal your self. like i say to all depressed people quit looking around for happiness its not a place or a thing, just look inside you it was there all the time.
AnnieToman
AnnieToman
Quantum , healing, sounds interesting, seems every thing is going Quantum now day, must be floating in the ether and everyone feels it. its the answer to why we exist. thats why its there to be discovered. i have thought of Quantum evolution, buts thats a very complex and unrelated story. thanks for making me aware of Quantum healing.
Avidreader9559
Avidreader9559
I used to question my worth, too. I couldn't take compliments, but the criticisms hurt so badly because I believed them. I had lots of distorted thinking about myself and lots of overwhelming emotions. Someone once told me I was beautiful, and I could only tell them all the reasons I wasn't. That was my low point. What helped me was deepening my relationship with God. There is a scripture in Romans 12:2 that says, "Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your minds." For me that reading God's Word and finding out who He says I am. It meant finding safety and security in His love for which He showed by sending His son to earth. It meant learning who He is and how He fights for me. It gave me words with which to replace the lies I had always believed about myself. I am worthy. I am loved. I have a purpose that God has planned for me. He will never leave or abandon me. That gave me the security I needed to let go of what other people think of me. It gave the courage to stand up and tell my story so that others can find hope they need. I am so happy for you that you have made the changes and the progress you have. I hope you can find what you need in order to change your thinking and emotions, also. Blessings.