Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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sun-chaser 09/14/2018

I am not new to support groups, but am new to online support groups. Interesting and I am willing to try it. Is there a spot where I can write about myself; my crazy self, that you folks can click on my profile and learn about my backgroud? I have looked and don't see a place to do that.

Anyway, I retired early at 55 years old. I have a vestibular (balance system) condition that resulted from a surgery gone bad. I can't drive. I was in a profession where I traveled 75+ days a year to the four corners of this planet. Sure, it got old and so for the first year plus of retirement I was content to have nothing to do and all day to do it. Now I am 59 and I am really down on my life. We moved out of the expensive Silicon Valley when I retired. Now live in a small fishing town on the coast of central California. I have tried to make friends but - little success. Folks my age are still working. I have a lovely wife of 34 years but she can't be all things to me.

So I am dealing with equal parts anxiety and depression. Dread, fear, hopelessness and a smattering of self loathing.

I hope to find this a community where I can feel safe to share these things and gain strength through those who have walked the path before or are where I am - stuck.

sonnycamehome 09/14/2018

Welcome! You can definitely write about your struggles here. It's a great place to get support. You also have the option of writing in your journal. You should see the option for a journal on your personal profile.

I became disabled at a young age and it was so hard to adjust to not working while everyone else around me was still employed. I completely understand the anxiety and depression surrounding that big life transition. Try to give yourself time to adjust. One thing that helped me was volunteering. Kind of gave me a sense of purpose.

Wishing you all the best.

sun-chaser 09/14/2018

I hope you're right I could use some human connectedness (is that a word?). Small town + limited mobility ( I can walk but not drive) = my challenge. Thanks for the reply.

SimpsonsOK 09/15/2018

Welcome aboard this DS lifeboat Sun. Two major adjustments there. Moving from everything familiar and loss of employment status, which is a part of retirement. May help to do some grief work on both, as well as the physical limitations. Uber/Lyft may be a solution for transportation. Walking around the neighborhood, especially when folks are walking, with or without dogs, may give you the opportunity to make friends to do things with. Just my thoughts, Comforting hugs.

sun-chaser 09/15/2018

Simpson, thanks for the ideas. I am just about to start one on one counseling with a really excellent therapist. His concentration is on Mens issues and I trust he can help me chip away at the issues that are pressing down on me. I do walk and it does help (and with my dog Sophie).
Thanks again.

Yard_Eggs 09/15/2018

Sounds like volunteering may be just up your alley. Small towns usually have limited resources and depend on volunteers for many projects, especially those directed toward children/students - tutoring, mentoring, ect. Volunteer to read at elementary school or the library. Also animal shelters rely on volunteer help.

Does your wife work out if the home? Could she appreciate your help around the house? I still work, my DH (62) is retired (on disability for depression & chronic pain) and I REALLY appreciate the help around the house.

I think you will find countless opportunities to get "unstuck" if you are willing to take a tiny step outside your comfort zone.

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