Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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KingDeteros 03/01/2018

My whole life I have felt like an observer to the world around me, rather than a participant in it. When I was very young, I watched other kids form friendships as I sat there, invisible. As I got older, I watched these same kids start their first relationships. I didn't make my first friend until I was 16 years old, and no one has stuck around for more than a few months. So still invisible, I have watched these kids around me grow into successful adults. They have gotten married or had kids and I remain a small child, unsure and alone, observing.

Lostanalone 03/01/2018

Hi sorry you have felt this way hope things get better for you

KingDeteros 03/01/2018

Thank you

Lostanalone 03/01/2018

I can understand the way you feel I have felt the same way sometimes when I was younger hugs to you

robotnik 03/02/2018

Are you extremely shy? I can understand what you mean by observer vs participant. For some people it takes longer - they get married but later in life. Most people get married younger, it's true. It's ok to be different. 'Normal is something not to be embraced but to run away from.' You are the artist of your own life - you can be more creative than people who have already opted for the normal way of doing things: marriage, kids, career etc. Both ways are acceptable.

Flashreturns 03/02/2018

Can you give us a bit more information? Why do you feel this way? Are you shy? Do you have a job?

KingDeteros 03/02/2018

I am extremely shy. I do have a job but am not really noticed by anyone there either. But I feel invisible because not a single time in my life has another individual come up to me to start a conversation. No one has ever given me a second look. I feel if I were just a little more outgoing maybe things would be different but at the same time I feel other shy people still get noticed sometimes. It just hurts to be so isolated, to have no one to lean on.

Fadedgypsy 03/03/2018

Try "sleep hypnosis to overcome shyness" you can find 30 min to 8 hours on youtube,

Sage7 03/05/2018

Sorry you feel the way you do! Hey! Someone noticed you enough to give you a job! What do you do for work? I can tell by your posts that you are a caring young man! My experience tells me that if you keep doing the right thing and work at your job with excellence, you will be noticed for it! It probably would be helpful to find ways to get a little out of your comfort zone and initiate interaction with others. You know, doing simple things like holding a door open for someone will usually get you noticed. Offering to take the lead on a project, or speaking up at a meeting will also get you noticed! Bringing thoughtful snacks to the breakroom is another sure winner. Keep doing things like that and people will start chatting with you  When they do speak, be sure to make eye contact and say something simple in return! Give it a try-you’ll see-it works! (Been there, done that…)

patti22 03/05/2018

Social skills are skills...they take practice.

How about going to a park or grocery store and practicing saying hello to people. Ask what the difference is between potatoes, or how to pick a cantaloupe. Ask people what they think the weather will be today or tomorrow.

My son was very delayed socially. It's hard when you have to learn in steps what other kids just seemed to pick up without thinking about it.

Help_me_Jesus 03/06/2018

It is ok. Be who you are. God didn't create us all the same. Sometimes we feel alienated and outcasted, but just know that observing in my opinion is good. Hang in there.

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